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Nisha
Expert May 2022

Feeling like a bad mom...

Nisha, on July 15, 2021 at 5:04 PM Posted in Planning 0 8
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We planned our wedding for 5/20/22, specifically because my child's school normally does graduations the 2nd Friday of the month, which will be 5/13/22. Well, I got the kids' calendars today and my 4 year old's pre-K 4 graduation will be, you guessed it, 5/20/22. I feel like such a terrible mother... I made a big deal about my middle child's pre K graduation, and now we're all gonna miss my youngest's.

I'm trying to tell myself it's not a big deal. He'll have a kindergarten graduation in 2023 and I could make a bigger deal about it to make up for the one he's gonna miss.

I thought about moving the wedding, but all but the catering and cake have been booked.

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Latest activity by Sharonda, on July 16, 2021 at 1:59 PM
  • Natalie
    Super November 2020
    Natalie ·
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    As a pre-k teacher, I’d say don’t change your wedding day to accommodate your son’s graduation, especially since he will have a kindergarten graduation the following year. If his school does little caps and gowns, you can ask his teacher to send you a photo of him in one in the classroom!
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  • Catherine
    Expert March 2023
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    In kindergarten I broke my arm and missed the last day. I remember it but I literally don’t care. So I don’t think it’s anything to feel bad about! I promise he won’t care in 20 years! Enjoy your wedding day!
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  • I
    Expert August 2021
    Ingrid ·
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    I know this sounds totally crazy, but if the graduation ceremony is in the morning . .maybe you can make both. . I know I did say it was crazy. . .but if it makes you feel better why not keep it as an option. . but I would only do it if there was a lot of time between the grad time and your wedding time (including getting ready if you are doing that)

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  • Nisha
    Expert May 2022
    Nisha ·
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    Sadly, there's not. Graduation is usually at 2pm and our wedding is at 6pm, 3.5 hours away. 😭

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  • I
    Expert August 2021
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    I don't have kids and have no idea how you are feeling, but there will be more graduations in future years
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    I get what you're saying completely, I would definitely have mom guilt and find a way for both to happen if anything. Even if that meant me pushing my wedding back later. They doesn't make you a bad mom though
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  • Gabby
    Devoted October 2021
    Gabby ·
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    I taught pre-k this year and if it makes you feel better the graduation is definitely for the parents and not the kids. Many of them have no clue why they are even there. I say just get a cap and gown and just take some pictures like that.
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  • Sharonda
    Super January 2021
    Sharonda ·
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    I know it's easier said than done to say don't feel bad. I wouldn't move your wedding, but would you be willing to find a way to celebrate your child's graduation at the reception? I don't know how, but perhaps incorporating some time in the reception for him to walk in in a cap and gown to cheers and celebration, etc. -- The reception being primarily a celebration of your new beginning in marriage (but a small portion of it dedicated to celebrating your child's new beginning too). Just a thought.

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