Feeling really self-conscious

I am sorry you are going through this. I hope your family realizes how hurtful they are being and stops. No matter what though, you should know you are beautiful. And that look on your FS face when they see you on your wedding day will be one to cherish and remember. Good luck with everything!

Go you check if your healthy. I'm a little over weight, have been my while life, because I've been proportionate my whole life. Other than being over weight I'm completely healthy, of course I eat a balanced diet, I go to the gym 2-3 times a week, so my doctor of course would like to see weight loss, but wants me to stay healthy. Don't do anything that can hurt your body, and talk to your family and tell them you need support with this. Keep listening to your fiance, I'm sure you are beautiful and focus on being healthy not necessarily a size 0.

I had to look at your pictures before I posted anything. I saw you in your dress and you look gorgeous! You don't look heavy at all you look like you have curves but in the best way possible. I'm sure your size 0 sister wishes she could fill out her bra or her jeans. Everyone feels like they are missing something or something is wrong. You really really looked stunning in your dress and need to stop worrying about what your family thinks.

This is a touchy issue for me too. I have been as small as a size 3/4 and as a large a 13/14. Which is my current size. I dont ever want to be a size 3/4 again!!! My goal is too be healthy which makes me the most happiest. But when my kids call me fat my comeback is I am still cute!!!. Love yourself !!!!!! at any size💖💖💖💖.

I am so sorry your family is so awful to you about that. I’ve been heavy my whole life and I’m fortunate that, though they have their own issues, my family has never put me down for it. Try looking at some body positive stuff. You’re beautiful and your fiancé knows it! Now you need to believe it and tell the family to butt out!

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A hyperactive thyroid could male you retain weight too, no matter how much you work out or try to eat well. My mom was about to be put on medication for it at 25 (them she got pregnant amd it corrected itself), and my soon to be MIL had the same issues except has been on medication for it for decades.

I think some pharmacies are even able to test your thyroid for you now for less than $20 (at least thats what the advertisement at HEB said).

Sorry your family is being so hard on you :/

I really appreciate all of your words. I've struggled with my self esteem for as long as I can remember and that's do to my family growing up. And I know my FH loves me and I can't wait to see his face when I walk down the isle but I'm going to try and step it up hopefully just to make myself feel better .

There's nothing wrong with your size. You look beautiful. I'm not telling you this because it's the right thing to say. I'm saying it because it's TRUE.
You should have a talk with your family and let them know how you feel about there comments. If you don't they'll keep doing it not knowing.
I think your beautiful but if YOU don't like your size. Your the ONLY one that can change it. Eat good and look up couch exercises.

Hi Melanie I agree with Heather above... I hope your family realizes how hurtful they are being. I encourage and EMPOWER you to ignore all of it! I realize this is much easier said than done. Remember how important how YOU feel in your body is... do you feel beautiful? Are you happy when you wear that gorgeous dress? I’m assuming the answer is YES! Then that’s what matters and it’s the only thing that matters.

I think sometimes people say things without even thinking. I would definitely address this and ask not to mention my weight or size. It’s one thing to be self conscious about it yourself by people constantly mentioning it can’t be helpful. Continue to work on your weight loss goals, while loving who you are as a person. What’s important is the love and support from your FH. He loves every inch and imperfection and I had to realize that’s all that matters.

You are gorgeous and your dress is amazing! Sometimess you have to just tell your family how you feel then move on. Hopefully they will make some changes but if not then they don't deserve to be in your life. I'm overweight and honestly I'm beyond blessed to have an amazing family and fiance. Of course I have dealt with other people who comment on my weight but I just shrug it off. I learned a long time ago not to let others dictate how I feel about myself.

I think you are beautiful. I feel you on the weight too. I gained 50 lbs when I was pregnant with my daughter and that was 4 years ago. I have lost maybe 10 lbs. I also have an imbalance in hormones due to having an ovary removed. I have to get my thyroid checked because of family history. No matter how I feel about myself, my FH still makes me feel like the center of his world. You have that and that is what is important. But your family sucks and maybe you just need to straight up tell them the things they say hurt a lot. Sometimes confrontation can be a blessing. But seriously, you are beautiful and that dress, omg!

Be like Joey Tribbiani from friends. "I'm curvy and I like it!!"

If you're happy then tell them to STFU.

I've also had people talk about how empowering boudoir photo shoots are. Look into that see what you think. And if you really like it, gift it to FH as a wedding present!

I feel you on so many levels. My family is the same way. I have also been thick for most of my life. Even when I was at my lightest in high school playing sports and working out nearly every day, my family still made fun of my gut and chunky arms.

Honestly, it just took time for me to realize how much I just did not care what they thought. My now FH thought I was beautiful and worth his time. It took time for me to realize that my self worth is so much more than what I look like and how much I weigh.

I started a fitness journey about a month ago to try to be a healthier version of myself. Not to lose weight for my wedding or for anyone besides myself. If you want to lose weight, lose weight for you. Not for the comments from your family to stop because they probably won't, no matter how much you lose. Once your attitude about yourself and their comments changes they will be forced to communicate with you differently.

Don't lose weight to be like your sister. Comparing yourself to someone else is a guaranteed way to make yourself miserable.

You are beautiful. You are strong.

I've been a big girl my whole life. Even though my family didn't accept that I was healthy I was always happy with who I am. Did I want to be smaller. Yes. I actually lost 95 pounds a couple of years ago and was not plus size for the first time in my life. (And I mean since I was a kid and I am 46 now. ) I was not at all comfortable as a size medium. It wasn't me. And people I had known for years didn't recognize me. I have put most of the weight back on and I am happier I have ever been in my life. I know it's hard, but just try to be happy. It doesn't matter what your size is.

I'm so sorry your family is so insensitive and makes comments that are offensive. Over time, those have to wear a person down. It seems that has happened to you.

All you can do is concentrate on is living a good life. Work on your self-confidence. Make small changes to feel better about yourself, not to lose weight. Who knows, maybe weight loss will follow. Increase how many fruits and vegetables you eat. Drink LOTS of water. Cut down on sugars. If you can, take a short walk during breaks and lunch. Again, not to lose weight, but to feel better about yourself. To know that you are living a healthy lifestyle.

No matter what, remember that FH loves you as you are and that's what is really important.

Looking at your pictures I see nothing over weight about you. You are gorgeous and flaunt your curves. Everyone expects everyone to walk around looking like a supermodel not worth it as long as you are happy with yourself that’s all that matters

You are beautiful! I also looked at your photos, and I wouldn't even call you 'thick', as you put it. You have beautiful curves. I have a friend that still struggles with a family that is constantly critical of weight. All of the parents, aunts, and grandparents put pressure on the cousins to be a size '0', and anything less was considered huge. It took her years of therapy and being away from her family to finally recover her self-image, and even now her parents are critical of her weight gain after she had children. It's such an unhealthy emotional environment and she works hard to remember that. Maybe therapy will help you realize how beautiful you are, and also give you strategies for dealing with the completely rude comments of your family.

First of I want to say you need to learn how to love yourself no matter what others say and secondly be healthy that’s important but overall you look amazing and not over weight at all , I’ve seen the post you made showing yourself trying on the dress and your not big so stop thinking that you are you look amazing !!!!

I am really sorry you are going through this. Last summer I was asked if I was pregnant twice, once by a child and once by a grown adult. That is what pushed me. It was hard to stay motivated. Everytime I did something got in my way. But I never gave up. My mom use to call me fat too so I feel ya. You have to want it for yourself and no one else. It is the only way it will work. Plus a work out buddy. Without my one bridesmaid who is addicted to the gym it never would have happened