Feeling weird about not being home anymore

I mean, I made sure to live by myself before I was married...

Sorry I can't answer this for you. I was out on my own after high school. It sounds like married life is going to be a HUGE transition. Have you and you FH gone to counseling to discuss your new role as an adult. Have you ever paid your own bills? Do you have a job?

It's a huge step, for sure! Just because you aren't living with your parents anymore and you add on the wife/mom titles doesn't mean you aren't still their daughter though. I still call my mom or dad on the way home from work every day, and I moved out almost a decade ago. You'll have plenty of "chores" in your new home too!

Just keep the lines of communication open between you and your husband. You might feel homesick for your parents' home or sad at some point, but you need to make sure that your husband can hear you talk about whatever you're feeling without thinking it means you wish you weren't married. Talking it out is key!

Well, it probably would have been beneficial for you to live independently instead of making the transition from living with your parents to living with your husband/his son (?). My H and I did not live together before we were married, but I lived on my own during college and immediately after college I moved into an apartment with a roommate. It will be a tough transition for you, but there's not much you can do about that now. Make sure you're on the same page on how to handle bills, payments, etc.

Oy. This is going to be life shattering most likely cause not only are you moving out but your living with someone you've never lived with, you are taking on the responsibility of raising a child, and your taking on the responsibility of running a house, not just "having chores". Its a lot.

Agree with @Nikki, your parents did you no favors.

You prob should have thought about this before now.

Not trying to be mean but seriously, you really should have thought about this.

Wish I could help but FH and I have been living together for almost 5 yrs and I practically ran out of my parents house to be independent lol it will certainly take some time to adjust since you're used to living with your parents but they should be happy you are moving forward with your life and becoming a mother/wife.

I can't speak to moving from being under my parent's roof to being a wife, but I can speak to moving in together. The truth is: It may be tough for a little while! You both will have to compromise and learn how to live together and be around each other on a daily basis. Talk about what roles you will have in your household. Who will clean? Who will cook? What standard of cleanliness will you uphold? Etc. Think about how you will each ask for and get alone time if you need it. How will you resolve fights in close quarters? Etc.

Give yourself lenience in this time of transition. You're basically going from a child to an adult and a mother in a day. That isn't going to be easy or perfect. And that's ok

Oh no. So glad FH and I had a long engagement and relationship. Gave us time to figure things out, get to know each other better and allowed us to grow individually as well as together as a couple.

Not sure what you can do at this point except to get some counseling. Agree with @OGSarah - should have figured this out before. Not at the eleventh hour.

I would hope your parents would be like HALLELUJAH!!! and be excited about you leaving.

My FH and I have had marriage counseling, and we speak very frequently about budgeting and paying bills. I am familiar with paying my own bills and paying them on time. I have a good paying job also.

My main concern is just the fact that I will not be under the headship of my parents any longer. As a native of Jamaica, women stay with their parents until they marry. We don't traditionally move on our own after high school or college, we stay in our parents' home until we get married.

This is where I'm coming from. From just being a daughter to being a wife and mom. I have experience with neither, and this is my first real, serious relationship.

I am not concerned about paying bills and having independence, I am only concerned about feeling weird that I won't be accountable to them anymore.

OP, have you ever lived away from your parents? Even if it was a study abroad, or in the dorms freshman year?

This was common in earlier years. And a lot of my friends have made this transition. Not all. Some lived on their own and moved in with their husband after the wedding day. I think the first 5 to 7 years of marriage is going to throw you for a loop. You are going to be tried to the point of losing your mind. But you will get through it. And although you aren't living under your parents roof anymore, from the sound of your upbringing they have prepared you by example. Just because you are right under them they aren't gone. They will help guide you and help you find your way.

I was so scared to move out of my parents house in 2010. I had never really been away from them and I was moving 1500 miles away to go to school.

I was terrified, but it was what I wanted and I'm SO glad I did it. Even if deciding to stay where I went to school after graduation was also terrifying. I miss my parents, but I'm so glad I moved out to be on my own and make my own choices. I look at my step sister who is the same age and still lives with our parents with pity as she is basically the same person she was in high school. I want her to move out and spread her wings and find her own way, but I know she's scared. It's a huge scary step, but it's a necessary one.

You'll be okay OP!

I'm 26, getting married in October and I've lived with my parents my whole life. I'll be moving out in October and it will definitely take getting used to. I'm nervous but excited and I know it will be bitter sweet

I can't give personal advice as I've lived on my own for a while but I would say talk to your fh that your concerned about the transition so you don't feel alone. It is a big transition to move out of your parents and to become a wife and mother. Give yourself time to adjust and prepare yourself that it might be tough or might not be

I can relate to your nervousness and situation. My FH and I live in a suite behind my parent's house as I am working on my doctorates in Pharmacy and wouldn't mind avoiding the cost for 1-2 more years regarding renting and instead be able to go purchase my own home outright. My parent's encourage it since I have a plan and and am trying to finish school at 25k a year. It is more of a financial situation as we are both fresh in our career fields still and want some extra financial security before choosing our own place.

That's tough ... I moved out when I was 19 and never looked back lol ... I found it an easy adjustment bc I was free to live as I wanted to.

Im going into my second marriage however for my first - the only time I lived outside of their home was when I was in college. It was a transition for sure - not only did I move out of my parents home; I moved 4 hours away (from a small town to the suburbs of Chicago). I had a bit of 'culture shock'. I expected to live how my parents did: always running errands together, cooking dinner together, going to bed at the same time. These were not the same expectations he had as he grew up in a completely different way. yes, we went to premarital counseling but I don't think that it covers the transition as you are speaking of and what I went through. My advice would be to speak about your expectations and be open with each other. I grew resentful as I had unrealistic expectations that were not met and I did not discuss them in a healthy way.

Be accountable for yourself. At 24, this should have happened long before this.