Feeling weird about not being home anymore

OP youll be okay. I also know what you mean. I am moving in with FH after the wedding and we both live at home. Its not ideal for everyone but its just been the norm for me. Just because some people moved out at 18 or 25 doesnt make them any more or less prepared for life. Yes i live at home with my parents but I also take care of myself fully. I pay my own bills do my end of my things and cook for myself when need to, same goes for FH. I have lived on my own in the past but we have found that moving back home and saving was what was right for us. I get what you mean about bittersweet because I do feel like that too in a sense. I CANNOT Wait to get married and start my own life with FH but it also makes me sad to see how my parents gets sad from time to time to know that their daughter will officially have a life and family of her own. Its definitely a transition but im sure you guys will be okay.

MOB, Iyla, Tamara V, Meghan M, Caitlin, CMc, and many others who've encouraged me, words cannot express how you've moved me.

Really, I appreciate it so much that I'm almost moved to tears. I took a huge sigh of relief. God bless you ladies.

Kathleen, lol! I can imagine, things like these is what I imagine feeling weird! Thanks for sharing

Happy to help @FutureMrsWhite! Maybe you can post an update after you're settled in!!

After reading others comments all I can think of is how judgemental a lot of the posts are and that's a huge shame. Having the joy and ability to live with your parents as long as you have is wonderful. You have enjoyed being a daughter and then being your parents.

I hope that my children live under my roof until marriage as well.

Living with your parents does not prevent you from "adulting" . Congrats on the new journey you are embarking on and remember communication with your husband is vital for a smooth transition.

^^ I totally disagree. I think everyone should have to live on their own, be responsible for all chores and bills. To many adults get coddled and its of no service to them (not saying this is the case in this scenario because I don't know).

MOB, what exactly is there to commend about living with your parents well into adulthood?

She's literally going from being the child of the household to raising a child....OVERNIGHT.

I'm not saying that it cannot be done, but let's not make light of this transition. It will be hard.

I wish you the best, OP.

Yea @Monica - those damn judgmental posts. So rude, right?

*sips tea*

Moving away from home is a big adjustment. Take a deep breath though, because it is an exciting one!

Remember that your husband and future son will be adjusting just as you will to the new living situation. Counseling is not a negative thing, or made to imply that you can't handle all of the changes. It is valuable to be able to have a professionally trained 3rd party help you manage all of the big changes that are coming your way. Don't be afraid to reach out to these resources to help you through these big life changes.

And enjoy your wedding day- you're so close to it!!

I have enjoyed being a daughter...and done that NOT living with my parents.

But okay Monica.

Thank you @MrsWrs

We do not know her situation and can't know if she's really living like a child or like an adult with her parents.

Even going from living alone or with a roommate will come with adjustments. She and her FH will figure things out together.

@OG Sarah I don't recall claiming that you haven't enjoyed being a daughter but if that is the only part of my post that stood out to you it must be for a reason right?

"Like most women..." I don't know any women save 1 that was living at home before she got married and that was just because it happened to be convenient after she came back from school and before she got married, to save money for their house. Plus her fiance lived in a different city.

I don't know what to say. I lived on my own for many years and had previously lived with someone and FH and I had growing pains when we first moved in together. Do you have the skills to live on your own? Can you budget a household? Can you pay bills? Do you know what to do if the electricity goes out or if there's a flood in your basement in the middle of the night? Do you know what to do if your washer goes haywire? Or your toilet backs up?

Seriously, good luck.

I have to say, a few of these comments have made me cringe inside. But a lot of you ladies have given me hope and a reason to not fear anymore. You're total strangers who I feel have somehow been there for me, and I really appreciate you.

As for the others who've basically condemned my situation because it's different from yours, I will be returning to give my testimony on my transition; which I know will be successful. Because even though I question my own ability to take on these new responsibilities, I know a lot of amazing people who will be support for me when needed. FH is understanding as well, and is very supportive of me.

I've never met a woman who didn't have motherly instincts kick in when she needed. Also, my Creator will see to it that I make a successful transition. Sometimes you just need that extra clarity, which through some here I've gained.

Thank you ladies!

Wowsers. I left home at 16 and have been out ever since.

Do your best, be kind to yourself, and be willing to make mistakes. That's the best advice I can give ya...

If you would like to meet a woman whose motherly instincts never appeared, I can introduce you to my mother. FFS, have you never ventured outside of your small little world?

ETA: I'm just asking because there are lots of people (men and women) who don't know what to do, and just call their parents.

I'm not sure how this is so "life shattering" as some are putting it.

I've lived with roommates or by myself since I graduated high school at 18. I'm 23 now and H and I waited till we were married to move in together. We've lived together almost a month now and it really hasn't been that earth shaking. We both know how to pick up after ourselves. My mom went straight from her parents house to living with my dad once married (besides a year in a college dorm) and she describes their first year of marriage as a fun and great year together.

However, I can't speak for the becoming a mom part as I do think that will be the more difficult adjustment.

But for the rest of it: have realistic expectations, let the small things go, pick your battles, have open communication, budget, and be on the same page financially.

One of my good friends also shared with me she struggled with the transition from daughter in her close knit family to being someone's wife. My mom always says a daughter is a daughter forever. You can still visit your parents, call them on the phone, be the same daughter you always have been - you are just also a wife now. I'm very close with my parents but for me that kind of correlated into asking H his advice and opinions on certain things and making decisions with him rather than calling my dad up first like I sometimes would on things. It means you and him are a team now. He is your first confidant. And you are his. You guys are on a team first and foremost.

Best of luck!

Not going to sugarcoat this for you, OP... this will likely take a long time to get adjusted to. This is one of the biggest adjustments in your life, as with anyone's first time away from home. But on top of just that, you also have to adjust to living with someone else, adjust to adding a child to the family and learn to cope and do things without your parents at your hip. It will take some time for you to learn how to do these things independently, but you can do this! Just take it a little bit at a time, and hopefully all will work out for the best!

I'm moving home after this semester of college, to finish out my last year. I lived on campus for a year and then in an apartment with a roommate for two. It was an adjustment, but I think it's possible. A friend of mine is getting married in November and has never been away from home, and she's really excited. It will probably be beneficial to seek some counseling for the transition but you can do it!

OP, glad to know you can fix a toilet but what about the not so common sense things? How will you handle huge shit storms that life brings? Not saying you cant to it but there are definitely going to be things that you are not in the slightest bit prepared for.