Feeling weird about not being home anymore

The first year after your child is born is very difficult on your relationship. You are both sleep deprived. You learn to fight in whispers and sign language. You barely have time for each other because you are so consumed by caring for another person. Just remember that if you want to have a child right away.

Using the term "mentally retarded" to talk about your could be incompetency is straight up offensive. Maybe something you could have learned being out in the real world.....

OMG I can't.

"As for the others who've basically condemned my situation because it's different from yours...."

This is killing me.

Whatever the context is, I think it's normal and healthy to feel the loss inherent in the shift in your identity and roles and relationships. Keep feeling your feelings!

Wowww WW always amazed me, some people in this forum think anyone who's not living their lifestyle is wrong. No damn no.

It's the rule in my country, we don't move out without being married. Who say just because I live at home, I'm less like an adult? I make more than my mom financially, I paid rent half and half with my mom. She doesn't like grocery shopping, I love it so I've been handling that since I was 12. My mom's health is not so great so I don't let her do much in the house either. I accompany her to doctor's appointment, taking care of her legal documents and so much more. Yet, you assume I'm not an adult because I still live at home.

@OP you will be just fine as long as you and FH communicate well and do your counseling. I can't say much regarding the kid 's part. Congratulations on your upcoming wedding

@Monica- No need to be nasty.

My goodness. I was about to come on here with all this encouragement about how it'll be fine and recommend a book or two on personal finance (what I find is the biggest problem with friends who went from their parents' houses to their husband's) but it seems like you got all hot and bothered and made a comment about something being retarded (my pet peeve).

Don't use someone else's challenge as an insult, please.

That said. You'll be fine. Continue counseling if you need it and have frequent conversations with FH regarding household responsibilities so you're on the same page. Also, you might want to read Dave Ramsey.

Have you ever been your own person? You seem to only be someone's daughter and then someone's wife. What about learning who you really are?

Girl I am absolutely terrified. I am in the same boat, never have been away from home now I have to live with a boy. Plus he was transferred to Milwaukee (were in Chicago suburbs) so I have to move away from home AND move to a new state AND find a new job all where I know ONLY my man.

Hey OP, my mom did the same thing. Well, until they kicked her out for marrying a white boy. But my mom has always been an independent woman. You can still be independent while staying with parents!

Read books on finance, ask other's in your family what they found helpful when transitioning into married life. It might be a shock, but nothing you cannot handle! Good luck!

I also moved out when I was 18 , and moved in with FH when I was 23. It was his first time moving out when we moved in. I agree its an adjustment and I remember feeling slightly nervous about "the unknown". I think you will be just fine. Has your FH lived on his own or with his parents?

It may feel weird at first but I promise you will adjust and enjoy this new way of living.

This is why I'm glad I lived on my own (I mean with roommates but close enough) since college.

Also glad FH and I "live" together during the weekends since I hate my roommates boyfriend who is there weekends and FH owns his townhouse lol

End of the day it's going to take some adjusting to but it will all work out and your parents are just a call away!

ETA- spelling.

Just remember that life isn't a fairytale. You will agree and disagree. Communication with your husband will be key.

My sister got married around your age. She never stayed the night with him or lived with anyone else. She says that the first few years we the hardest ever. However, now they have been married for 10 years and have 3 children. My parents see them several times a week and may move in with them. If you are willing to work at it, you will move past the hard times in the beginning.

While not the same situation, what helped me when I moved cross country and out of my parent's house was that they were always a phone call away!

Ohhhhh boy jeezeee sometimes yall just go off.... good lord!!! (((HUGE SIGH))))) people did this for YEARSSSS a long time ago.... did I? NOOOO I was on my own at 18 BUT that is not the issue.... OP asked about it being "weird" and thats what i am going to answer....

Yess it will be weird for both you and your parents.... it is a HUGE HUGE transition.... should you have lived on your own for awhile... ookay yeah maybe but that doesnt mean that your marriage is doomed or will be unsuccessful.... I agree Individual Counseling will be your best friend, seek it and embrace it... Remember the first 3-5 years of marriage will be hard thru this transition but its doable!!! God Luck and enjoy your Wedding Day!

I could not imagine marrying someone I never lived with. The first year of living together, even after being together for a long time, will be eye-opening...especially adding becoming a step mom into the mix!

I am on the same boat :/ I had been with my fiancé for almost 5 years and some weekends I go over to his house and stay with him over the weekend. But I still live with my parents and my sister... and I am excited to get marry and everything but I am for sure feeling a little funny knowing that I will not be coming back home every night :/

You are lucky to be that close work with your parents! Don't look at it as if you are leaving them forever. You are finally really becoming a woman of your own and they will be happy for you. And more happy im sure, when the grandkids come. Lol. As for the time it takes, each person is different. It won't always be easy, but its worth it.Good luck.

I am SO excited to move out of my parent's house to live with my FH!! We should be moving in a few weeks but everything is up in the air right now, he's been applying to jobs all over the country and today we found out he has an interview 7 hours away! So I'm excited, but I'll definitely miss being so close to my family. Also I did live on my own for a couple years in college, and it was an adjustment living on my own and an even bigger adjustment moving back home. Even if it's only for this short waiting time while he finds a job.