Feeling weird about not being home anymore

Have you considered talking about this with your mom or other relatives who might have had similar cultural experiences as you when they got married?

For me it was different. My house woth my parents was always loud and there were always peiple over. My FH house was always quiet. It was hard at first for us to get down who does what and how. We were both used to stuff a certain way. Youll grow into a new family woth your FH with a new way of doing thibgs together. I did miss my parents a ton so i tried to set up time to visit them often. I would also call my mom and ask her advice especially in the beginning

I've been independent since I was 19. Honestly, I suggest counseling.

I'd say, how you should feel about not being accountable to your parents anymore... celebrate! Be happy you don't have to answer to someone else anymore! Love and respect them, sure! But you are your own person who can make your own decisions. Do seek counseling as becoming a mother overnight will be extremely difficult. And, don't let your FH replace your parents in the sense of 'answering' to someone. You are partners, equals. You only answer to yourself. Again, love and respect your fh, treat him how you'd want to be treated. I just think it could be an easy slip if you're used to only ever being told what to do by your parents and having no experience making all your own decisions

OP, the sun will be up in a few hours, and that means your wedding day will be your reality in the very immediate future.

As far as your anxiety, yeah, I get it. I was someone who left home ASAP -- at the age of 19. It was fully my choice -- but I I still pulled over on the highway, less than ten minutes after my exodus, and cried. Then, I dried my eyes, lifted my head, straightened my shoulders, and put the car in drive as I headed to an unknown and unsure future. In the deepest part of me, I knew I'd be okay, even if I didn't have all of the details. I've never regretted it. However, I'm me, my home life was what it was, and yours, from the sound of it, is something you cherish.

It will be an adjustment, but hell, it will have so many perks you can't even value because you haven't experienced them. Do you have any idea how freeing it is to do what you want to at exactly the time you want to do it? I loved not having to set an alarm for 12:30AM because I had to get back home by 2:00 AM. I loved finding out who I was -- and that meant everything from values, to spirituality, to decorating, and to hosting social events at our (early) humble abode. I loved not having to justify every choice. I loved every upgrade -- year after year -- until we finally bought our own home. You grow together, as a team, and it's magnificent. Parents, for an adult woman, are beloved, but they are an ever present image in the rear view mirror. What's in front of you is in front of you.

Sure, I'd suggest, if this were two years ago, that you ventured out on your own, but that's water under the bridge. What matters is today, and what comes after it. Remember, there's no going back, even if you actually attempt it.

I promise you, as human beings, we all want autonomy and freedom, and while I am a total advocate of couples living together before marriage (it's true -- you don't really know someone until you live with them, or together face any type of horrible news that life will absolutely dump on your doorstep, or realize that the personality traits you used to gloss over while you lived separately are no longer something you can live with), I don't think you're doomed. At a disadvantage? Yes..but not doomed.

So, be thankful that you are one of those who look back on your home-life with admiration, but don't let that past security cripple you, and it can. Home, for you, is now a wonderful place you visit on occasion and on holidays, but it shouldn't be home base. A good parent prepares their child for life outside of the incubator, and I'm hoping your parents did that for you. Remember, if you're old enough to make the decision to get married, you're old enough to handle it, and you will. And, sadly, if you fall victim to the statistics, you will still be far more educated and prepared to face life on your own. You're going to be shocked at what happens to you, your head, your confidence, and your heart, as you grow.

Just a little advice for a bride who's going directly from her parents' home to her husband's home -- and I'm deadly serious -- keep your arguments and debates within the four walls of your own home -- whether it's a studio apartment or a 3,000 square foot McMansion (and if home is where the heart is, don't ever underestimate the power of the urge to find non-objective advocates right where you know you'll find them -- at home, Fight it, unless you're in danger). Wives forgive and move on -- parents hold grudges.

Enjoy the experience. You don't get many like this in life, and it's full of great surprises.

Oh, and have a memorable wedding day. Focus on that walk down the aisle -- you'll never duplicate it with him (and you've been envisioning for a long time, so make it count). Stop every half hour or so and just look -- look at what's happening, because of the love you share with another human being. Weddings are human treats...when you get one, you want to make it last. So, make it last.

Today is your wedding day, congratulations OP!