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Savvy November 2022

Feet Washing ceremony

Nay, on February 7, 2022 at 1:43 PM Posted in Wedding Ceremony 1 9
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So i really love the feet washing ceremony and want to do it at my wedding. My only concern is i know that it is a deeply religious ritual, and i dont know if it will seem weird to include that then turn around and have a reception thats basically a big party: rap music, drinking, garter toss, everything. So i feel like it will be out of place. And I am thinking of having the officiant talk about the bible story briefly but really focus in on what it means to us and our marriage so its not so religious. What do you guys think?

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Latest activity by Kaylie, on March 16, 2022 at 12:29 PM
  • Candace
    Super March 2022
    Candace ·
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    If it would have meaning to you and FH then you should have it. No one should judge you for having religious traditions in your ceremony the same way no one should judge you for drinking alcohol at the reception. People are both spiritual/religious, and also love to have a good time. It's not either/or.
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    Savvy November 2022
    Nay ·
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    This makes me feel so much better. Thank you! I know it seems so silly, but i was really worried about confusing or even offending people who are familiar with the ceremony. But im definitely just gonna focus on us and what we want
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar December 2022
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    If the ritual has meaning to both of you, then do that. It’s not everyone’s cup of tea but no one will or should be judging you. What you do at the reception has no bearing on the ceremony.
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  • Gabby R
    Savvy September 2022
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    Honestly, I thought about doing a foot washing because I have done it with my family and it was such an amazing experience. That being said it was also one of the most emotional and intimate things I have ever done because we explained what the person meant to us as we washed their feet. We were all bawling the whole time and are not typically an emotional family.

    I'm not saying this to discourage you. I think it is wonderful if you want to do it. I just wanted to provide this perspective in case you hadn't thought of it and if you don't want to share that with everyone on your guest list, maybe you can do it at a more personal time in the day. Or if you want to share it with your guests, then do it!

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    Savvy November 2022
    Nay ·
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    Thanks hun, i definitely want to share it with everyone. I want my wedding to be completely about us, people are just being invited to witness lol i was just concerned it would seem weird. But the earlier responses were right, oy judgy people would see an issue.
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  • Gabby R
    Savvy September 2022
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    Definitely go for it then! I'm sure it will be wonderful!

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  • JW
    Dedicated September 2021
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    Agreed. Celebrate it all.

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    Rockstar August 2023
    Elly ·
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    I see no reason why you shouldn't have the foot washing ceremony.
    Ceremonies are meant to be more religious and reflective in nature (unless you yourself are not deeply religious). I think it is a bit sad that people have shied away from being deeply religious, or showing their religious side. Don't change what an officiant should say just so that it doesn't "scare away" guests- they are not the ones being married. Who knows? You may even inspire their own walk by showing them what the start of a covenant marriage really looks like and symbolizes.

    Somethings to think about:
    -A wedding is a free party that everyone wants to attend, but a marriage is a deep, and serious lifelong commitment that most (unless you are truly blessed) won't be there to help out with when the chips are down for you and your spouse.

    -A reception should feel different! It should be happier in nature, like, "WOO HOO! We did it!" and enjoying the company of your guests and the natural high of becoming one with your spouse.

    -Matthew 5:13-15 and Mark 9: 49-50

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  • Kaylie
    Beginner July 2022
    Kaylie ·
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    Thank you, Elly! I also find it sad that it seems like less people are having a truly religious ceremony. I appreciate your suggestion to focus on the deep and serious religious commitment during the ceremony. And then the reception is a party to celebrate Smiley smile
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