Fellow brides, what do you need to vent about??

Oh man the Word docs to fill out drive me nuts!!! I always end up making them a fillable PDF and send them back that way 😂

I think the most annoying thing right now for me is that I have nothing to do. We have a 2 year engagement and we're super busy in the summer so I've been trying to do everything I can so I'm not so swamped next summer, but I'm currently stuck until about January with nothing to do. I can't get flower or cake estimates until next year and everything else is done.

I know right!!! All those contracts look like they were written in crayon and I usually have to send them back because they all forget something. And the worst are those who "don't work with contacts", lol, why do you think I would send you money without having a written contract to fall back on?
And sometimes they make you wait for weeks for a yes or no answer...

I'm also really annoyed by those "artist" vendors (florists mostly) who just don't listen to what you want but try to push their Big Beautiful Vision on you... With ridiculous quotes following a month later.
But there are some very good vendors, too, those who are not afraid to tell you if your ideas won't work with the venue, or with the number of guests. So it's not all bad.
But my biggest vent would probably concern family members who like to "suggest" ideas and guests to add to the list. Or my FHs aunt, whose main entertainment right now is telling me of all the wedding disasters she witnessed/ heard of, all to be taken as good advice, of course. Or my cousin, who is now insulted, because he has to drive 500 km for my wedding... While I drove the exact same distance to his wedding an year ago and never even got a thank you card for the gift. Or my mother's family who refuse to get vaccinated OR tested... I could go on and on.

View Quoted Comment Isn’t it the worst?? 🤣


Oh man! Yes, that would be hard!! At least you’ll have lots of things already checked off the list so you can focus on the remaining items when that time comes! Although I wonder why they can’t give estimates? They’re just estimates, ya? 🤔

I am married already now but i will say i KNOW venues and vendors don't like to put their pricing up because they want you to inquire so they can entice you but honestly i APPRECIATE when there are venues and vendors that DO put the pricing up already! it just saves so much time and effort for our planning purposes ya know

View Quoted Comment Hahaha oh me too girl!! 🤣 Could go on and on and on….


Ya, the passive comments are my favorite. “Make sure you don’t do this or that” from people who planned their wedding 30 years ago hehe
OMG I ordered custom cookies for my bridesmaids proposals and baker was definitely the “artist” type and insisted the writing “will you be my bridesmaid” be white text on top of the white frosting. I had to have her redo them because you couldn’t see the most important part of the cookie!

View Quoted Comment 100%!! What’s funny is that from a business standpoint, I think it’s been proven that those who list their pricing upfront are more likely to receive the business and be seen as trustworthy. And I totally believe it! Vendors that require us to fill out a huge form before giving any info whatsoever tells me that they don’t respect my time and don’t consider the fact that we’re also having to do the same with other vendors as well.

View Quoted Comment We actually had one venue that told us that we would get pricing estimates only after we've chosen the menus in December. We're getting married in February, so of course we would have had no way of backing out and would have been stuck with them... We went with a different, much more transparent venue.

View Quoted Comment Not only "don't do this or that" but also "you HAVE to have this and that"! Lady, I don't have to do or have anything.


Also, that one friend already practicing her moves for the bouquet toss because she wants her boyfriend to propose, I'm like 99% sure that she'll never speak to me again after the wedding because I'm not doing one.

I've only been planning for two months but I have quite a few irritations already lol. First of all, why do vendors hide their prices? There is a huge range price for photographers, florists, bands, rentals, etc and I'm trying to stay within a low to moderate budget. Even if the cost depends, they could at least say where their package starts on the website. I need to know if they are outside my affordability from the start or else I'm wasting time and effort. Even on the weddingwire app under the FAQs for pricing I've found vendors report different prices than what they have on their website or give as estimate. Second, weddings have so much etiquette and traditions. I really don't care for most of them lol. And thirdly, along the line of tradition, weddings really expose where relationships stand. Choosing bridesmaids, dealing with my relationship with my dad, and not to mention trying to plan this thing with my FH lol. I'm being tested, but also really having fun with it.

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WHAT! THAT IS RIDICULOUS! i mean why would you want to know AFTER you choose the menu? it makes more sense to know the pricing of the menu BEFORE you decide for sure on that menu

View Quoted Comment I know right 😄

Trying to plan a wedding with a lawyer fiancé. 🤣. The time we spent picking a FONT for our invites was insane!! We DIYed them (because of course I was over budget by the time we got to this point-whoops), and it was excruciating between the font and the wording.


Family expectations also are terrible. Invite all the aunts and uncles and cousins! (The cousins adds about 100 people, so no).
Planning the rehearsal dinner. Should be fiancé’s job, somehow turned into my job.

My mother! She has an opinion about everything and her vision is NOT mine. Everything about us is different when it comes to our styles. She hates everything I pick out and says it’s bland and boring or cheap.


Also Covid, it can can go to H.e.Double Hockey Sticks…Everyone has an opinion on how it should or shouldn’t be handled and each of them feels very passionate about why they are right.

Another issue I've had with vendors is them NOT EMAILING ME BACK. Or calling me back. Or answering texts. We ordered the mens' suits back in early May. The guy said it would take 10 days to get them in, the guys would try them on for alterations, and then another 10 days to get the alterations done. We didn't hear from the guy for a month after my brothers tried on their suits, and my fiancé had to text and call him DAILY (because he has never answered our emails) for 2 weeks until he finally sent a text back saying "Oh, yea, I've had them for a couple weeks." Um...then you should have told us to come get them! And our shuttle...OMG the shuttle. This guy has the worst customer service I have ever experienced. He ghosted me for 2 months and then calls me saying his sister told him to call me...turns out his sister is our venue coordinator! Then it takes another 2 months to get the contract (in which I had to make about 20 edits because it had the wrong information or was missing very important info...like how much I was paying and when), and when I asked specifically for him to let me know he received it, it took him a week to email me back saying "yea, I got it". Coolcoolcool. Be a jerk, that's fine. I don't currently have stress dreams about him not showing up the day of our wedding (I definitely do). Also, as they mentioned above--COVID. I can't believe we're still struggling with having our wedding at this point. And any decision I make about our wedding (because it's OUR wedding, so it's OUR choice what protocols we want in place), people are suddenly telling us we're making the wrong decision, or we won't have people attend, or blahblahblah. My wedding countdown has become less about being excited to get to the wedding, and has become a countdown to being done with wedding planning/dealing with all this crap! haha

It might be weird to thank you for starting this thread, but seriously...no one seems to care what I'm dealing with during wedding planning. Everyone just changes the subject if I start complaining about it. SOMETIMES I JUST NEED TO VENT.

I've got another one to add. I just received an email from our venue telling us that our deposit has still not been paid... We've paid that deposit in July. I HAVE AN EMAIL FROM THAT SAME WOMAN CONFIRMING THAT THEY'VE RECEIVED THAT PAYMENT.
I'm so done.

So far I'm VERY annoyed with our family members that are trying to add extra people AFTER I've sent out invitations, the people that are constantly texting me that they're coming but won't RSVP, & being pestered by my MIL to do certain things when she ALWAYS ends up NOT doing anything. I want to be excited at this point because it is literally 2 months away (10.17.21) but I'm so stressed and over it, I can't get to that emotion yet.

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Wait, that's crazy?!!?

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Giiiirl, I'm having a microwedding with only parents/siblings and best friends. I also did invite my grandma, but she declined because she didn't understand why we couldn't also invite the aunts and uncles which would 5x our wedding.

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Seriously! You can't win with the covid thing. Everyone acts like an expert, and if you're not on their side then that means you either support the government global takeover or you literally want to ax grandma and children ... it's making people so crazy.

Not to mention the elephant in the room.... will my wedding even be allowed by the time the big day comes?? Exhausting.

My FMIL keeps complaining about how much FH and I are spending on the wedding. We're both working two jobs to pay for it because we have specific things we want, refuse to go into debt for, and are able to afford it this way. So far the only parent that's contributed to the wedding is my dad and step-mom who paid for my wedding dress. Like, it's not your money, shut your mouth.

Other pet peeve is when family keeps putting people out there to invite when FH and I have explicitly said we're trying to keep it as small as possible (which is hard with the size of my family).