Fellow brides, what do you need to vent about??

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EXACTLY. That's why I started this thread. I figured I couldn't be the only one with some things to get off my chest! I'm feeling the same as you with losing the excitement as the day gets closer, however I really do feel that once it's here I'll be excited again. My fiance and I have considered making a game out of it - have a code word for when things go wrong on the day or start making bets for what will go wrong next. May as well laugh instead of cry, right??

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Ugh that's so frustrating! 2 months out is about the worst time from my experience hahah. I was about ready to pull my hair out! I'm one month out and it's getting a liiiittle better now that things HAVE to get finalized. Hang in there girl!

View Quoted Comment Right!!! My fiancé and I are taking a freedom of choice approach to our wedding at this point. We feel like we did the right to thing and got vaccinated. My parents are extremely to the right and his parents are extremely to the left. We are exhausted and to the point where we know we are going to piss someone off no matter what.


- Vaccinated? Great- Not Vaccinated? Proceed at your own risk, or go get vaccinated. - Want to wear a mask, go for it!- Don’t want to wear a mask? That’s okay, proceed at your own risk.- Don’t want to come because of our approach on Covid? That’s okay, we still love you and respect and honor your choice and we can celebrate some other way, some other day. We mean it, we still love you!
We are vaccinated and have no intentions on wearing masks at this point. We respect your choice, so please respect ours.

Hello all,

I have a few different things that are driving me nuts. We are sort of secretly planning our wedding. He would love to talk about it, but he has a big family with rather big opinions, my mother is that same way and for my sanity, I want to have things decided and planned before hearing what everyone else wants. They are already all baffled that I know he has my ring in the house but has yet to propose. I have tried very hard not to judge others' relationships unless they are clearly abusive so why should our choices matter to everyone else.

Even though we are secretly doing this and plan on saying something at Christmas it still hasn't stopped people from putting their two cents in. For a while, I have been considering what I would like and discussing with my other half what he would like. People seem baffled by my choices. "what do you mean you don't want kids to attend? What about all of your nieces and nephews and friends with kids?" I have taken into consideration everyone's drive times, no rehearsal dinner so no one has to take off work (mainly for my father which I am happy to do) no bridal party because I know how much everything costs. While all considering that COVID is a new cold and flu to look forward to throughout the year. Honestly, if my mom has not gotten married at a courthouse I would seriously consider this coming January just going and getting married. Though the after mather would be worse than all the stuff I have to hear already.

View Quoted Comment Isn’t it so weird how entitled people feel about someone else’s wedding?? I’ve also thought it so bizarre (and rude) to give so much unnecessary pushback to a bride who already has so much to deal with. And for a day that doesn’t really have anything to do with them.


I’m having a micro wedding of about 35 people. Immediate family and closest friends. FH and I have literally dozens of aunts and uncles, not to mention all the cousins. My grandma, who we did invite, declined our invitation because she didn’t like that we weren’t having a normal huge wedding. Really grandma? 😑
Do you at least feel like it’s brought you and your FH closer?

My FMIL has invited her friends to our wedding. Three couples, who weren't on our list. We do know them, but we're not in any way close to them. We didn't send them save the dates. She just went ahead and invited them.
And here's the next best thing: after we sat down, recalculated everything, printed and sent them additional STDs and after lots of worrying what will happen if enough other people do not decline (because we have a guest limit in our venue and we've already invited the highest possible number)... All three couples declined. Also, FMIL is now officially cut off from all things wedding-related and throwing a hissy fit, blaming my fiancé because apparently her friends declined because we sent them their STDs after everyone else received theirs and they felt "b-listed".
Does anyone else suspect that their wedding is not really about them? I feel like both our families just took this opportunity to throw away all logical thought and good manners and are just doing whatever they want at this point.

So I'm new to the wedding planning...OMG why is EVERYTHING so expensive!!?? I'm not the best DIYer but it looks like Pinterest and YouTube will be my best friends. But is it really cheaper tho? Probably not LOL

AND another thing ...the only vendors we've booked are the venue and the photographer. I love love love my FH but God bless his heart-- he just realized 2 weeks after we booked the photog that package is $1500 (a good deal with lots of extras and flexibility) but now he's like whoa that's expensive. Not 2 weeks later with a signed contract, buddy.

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Everything is sooooo expensive! It's absolutely crazy how much some of this stuff is, and you're totally right about DIY not always being cheaper. Sometimes it's also just easier to throw money at some stuff so you can take some stress off of yourself lol.

Your FH sounds like mine! We talked about our budget when we first started planning, agreed on 30-35K and when we recently talked about finance stuff he was like "It's like 25k" uh... no babe, we agreed before it's more than that. He was a bit confused after that like what did we get ourselves into 😂 $1500 for photography with extras isn't unheard of anyway. Good luck with the rest of your planning!