Felons not allowed on base!!!

No offense, but the US government knows too much about us already. I would respectfully decline your lovely invitation.

However for people who want to go, I would send the requested rules and regulations with the invite in a separate mailing.

B listing is sooo rude though.

Sandra, no. Put that list for navigating your B-list away. It's really rude.

Trust me, from someone that was b-listed it's incredibly rude and insulting. You may think your friend won't care, but they when when/if they find out.

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Yeahhhh I don't think I'd provide SSN and other private info to attend a wedding.

Yeah, I'm sure your guests would do it for you, but why not just choose a different venue? What an annoying experience just to attend a wedding!

I've been to several weddings on military bases. It's not uncommon to have to fill out that sort of paperwork to get on base. People who care about you will fill out the paperwork without a problem.

ETA: To answer your question, I'd either send the paperwork with the invitation or send it out once guests have RSVPed yes.

No one said you were "tripping" #readingcomprehensionforthewin. I simply said what it looks like.

You already have your mind made up, why waste time on here asking for advice?

Your venue is inconvenient and a hassle for guests. Elope if you don't give a damn about them.

This whole situation seems so ironic to me. If a felon got onto a base and did something, there would be more firepower on a Military base than almost anywhere.

I am pretty certain the government already knows your license number and if you have a record.

I have tremendous respect for current and retired service members. If one of them, or their family, wants to have their wedding on base, I would be honored to be invited

@Elphaba: I still can't understand why your friend is in jail. Anyone who kills a rapist should have medal put around her neck. Did she have poor legal counsel?

As someone who is marrying a man in the military it's actually not that difficult to get on a base. Even going on base by myself isn't that time consuming. I have also attended weddings without my FH and was never inconvenienced by any sort of form. I would send all necessary paperwork along with you invitation and make sure you give clear directions to all of your guest about entering the base.

I disagree with most about it being too inconvenient. That's just extra dramatic. I've been to plenty events on a military base and never have a problem filing out the form.

If your guests say they won't go to your wedding Bc they have to fill out a form, they are lazy and not worth your time anyway.

As for the B list. I could care less either way. I've been b-listed and don't really mind. I'm not so unreasonable to not understand that sometimes there are people you have to invite and that prohibits you from inviting the people you really want to invite.

To answer your question: I feel like the form should be included with the invite itself because it may be cumbersome to have people mail back both an RSVP and a form.

I'm getting married on an Air Force base. They require an Entry Access List (EAL) 10 days prior to the event. That being said, it's not to check for felons. They are checking for outstanding warrants, unresolved issues, etc. They do not ask for SSN due to Privacy Act and Freedom of Information Act.

We included a note on our invite requesting people include info on the back of RSVP (photo) for base access to the ceremony. They ask for DOB, full legal name, citizenship status, and drivers license #.

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I had an internship on a very secure air force base a few years ago, and when my dad had to come on base because my car wouldn't start the visitors office just made a copy of his license and gave him a pass. Simple as that. What base is it that you're planning on? I'm sure the restrictions aren't as extreme as you're making them out to be. If they are, then you just need to find a different venue.

Also, B-listing is insanely rude, no matter how many cute little navigation lists say it's normal or okay.

If all it requires is a DL#, what about guests that don't have one? Believe it or not, not everyone in the US has a DL or even a government issued ID.

ETA: Or someone forgets their ID at home because they carpooled? It's a lot of what-ifs but these things do happen.

I went to a wedding at a naval base in California. It was one of my favorites. I just needed to provide a photocopy of my license and I had to carry everywhere on base. My cousin (bride) had to go to the front of the gate every time something was happening(forgot id, didnt match name on list) with her guests. But... she had close to about 500 guests.

@Sandra Are you set on having your event on base? It may be a bit much for your guests to fill out that paperwork to attend your wedding.

If you do not think this will be an issue please send the paperwork as an insert in your invitation to all "A-Listers." Next, take your "B List" guests and throw that list in the trash. It is incredibly rude to tier your friends/family.

@Nancy from the mouth of a govt employee with more information than you'll ever know... just stop. Big brother isn't interested in your side Maui elopement advertising business.