FH does not want a wedding ring (but a tattoo instead)

@Anne the epidermis is the part of skin that sheds away. Tattoos are deeper than the epidermis. That's why they are permanent. Tattoos don't "shed away" They need touched up due to fading over time in general. Not because you've washed them off.

ETA: FH wants a tat and a ring.

H always said he didn't want to wear a ring. No biggie to me, my dad rarely wears his so its not weird to me. I said I didn't care, then he told me he wanted a ring tattoo instead. I felt weird about. As Elphaba said, the WHAT IF or saying never get a persons name tattoo'd on you, its like guaranteed you'll hate that person one day and regret it. So i was looking at it, if you get a tattoo its like a foreshadow that we're doomed.

its not of course. I got over it and agreed if he wants it he can, it just can't be anything related to me in anyway (i.e name, nickname, date, etc) He's thinking of getting the Deathly Hallows "always" (like my avatar) in a ring around his finger. Now he suddenly got into Harry Potter and realized the deathly hallows doesn't actually have anything to do with love or "always" and fans just turned it into that. so he's second guessing.

He actually said on the honeymoon he doesn't mine wearing it and feels weird without it on now. He hasn't mentioned the tattoo since we got home from the honeymoon, so may he's changed his mind? I haven't asked.

@Elphaba Holy cow that sounds horrifying and I'm so sorry you had to go through that! At least you know that deep down under that flaming demon is where he'll forever know is a name of someone who was smart enough to get away from him.

My fiancé is doing this. He works in a factory and constantly loses everything, plus he has 15+ tattoos and it just fits him. I am not getting one and will wear my traditional rings.

Does your FH have any tattoos? I have two. Most recently one on my foot/ankle. Pain wasn't bad but definitely worse than my first one. I couldn't imagine getting on my finger, especially as my first.

Thank you everyone for your feedback!! I actually NEVER heard of silicone rings or rings like that, so that is great to know! I did just talk to FH and he said he is still planning on the tattoo (just don't know of what yet), and I did tell him not to go with something too detailed as it can fade pretty fast (plus the constant upkeep on getting it redone to look crisp). We both do not have any tattoos so we are completely in the dark with it comes to information on them.

As for his "formal" ring he is thinking of having the "One Ring" from Lord of the Rings. At least that is our plan for now. Thanks for all the help guys!

I think this is a cool idea! my FH is getting a traditional ring, but he works in a hospital and can't really wear it at work.

My cousin and her husband have ring tattoos. They didn't get the right away, and they exchanged physical rings at their ceremony and have them if they want to wear them. She has his first name (three letters) spaced out in small caps around the top of her finger where her e-ring and wedding band would sit and I believe it's not as wide as her wedding set, so it wouldn't be visible if she had her physical rings on. He has a cursive "E" on the top of his ring finger (her first initial). I'm not sure if his band is wider than the "E." Even I, someone who's never had interest in getting a tattoo, think their ring finger tattoos are cool and tasteful.

The silicone rings are also a good option to at least show your FH, in case he decides he'd prefer that over the tattoo.

I think its a cool idea (I love tattoos) just make sure he's aware that they fade pretty quickly on your fingers. I have tattoos on my index fingers and they are half faded now.

I personally would not do this, even though I have all the faith in the world in my marriage. My step-sister got tatoo wedding rings, because neither one of them were "ring" people, but they also jumped into their marriage WAAAAAAAY too soon. The marriage lasted about 2 yrs followed by a pretty nasty divorce. Now she has this tatoo that would always remind her of this event. I don't want to be the negative one here, but if you do it, you have to be 1000% sure what your doing is the right decision. Good luck to you!

I second everyone who's proposed silicone. My FH wanted a tattoo too, as he works in construction. I just have misgivings about it so we compromised on a silicone band. Easy to replace, won't hurt his hand at work, and still tells everyone he's married.

I love the idea! To me, the tattoo no matter will not come off (understand it will fade) - but it is still a commitment - especially fitting with his job. We are the opposite, I love my engagement ring, but the type of band that I would want to go with it is a bit out of price range right now - so we are opting for him to get a wedding band and I'll get a tattoo on our mini-moon. Then on our 5th anniversary go all out on a forever band.