FH DOESN'T want boudoir pics - WTH?!?!? Wanted MEN's opinions!

My DH had the same reaction. He didn't want ANYONE else seeing me that way. He got over it when he saw the photos.

You could always set something up on your honeymoon or in a nice hotel nearby and have him be the photographer

Analy, so you went through with them anyhow? I may too, I've never been one to not do something just cause someone told me not too. lol

and Bella, I really don't think he meant it that way either, I know he is super attracted to me and thinks I'm beautiful...all of me, but still a little sting. And hell no he isn't traditional! I mean he's made comments about how he doesn't want me showing cleavage and all that in my wedding dress, like I dress like a hooch all the other times. Its goign to happen that I have cleavage from time to time, I got bign's lol. So idk...I may just go ahead and do them and if he doesn't like them...I'll just through em out I guess.

Oh...good idea Mrs. Jayjohn...that he may go for.

My man is the same way! I gave it a lot of thought and decided not to do it out of respect for him. I think I would enjoy it and it could help build my self-confidence, but to him it is to privet and intimate. I had mixed feelings too when he said NO but now I can sort of understand it and accept it. There are other things you can do for him that he will love or just like Mrs. Jayjohn said you can do it together just for fun.

Yep, did them anyhow! I had my MoH shoot them though, after he made a big deal about not having our photographer (a guy) see me like that. They're still pro quality though.

You have to remember though, that these photos are NOT just for him. They're also for you. They're more empowering than you can possibly imagine until you've done them! If it's something YOU really want, you should do it!

How many times did I just say "though"? Gosh how annoying...lol sorry.

I would ask him why he doesnt want them. Maybe there is a reason we dont know about? But, I would also make clear that you had hurt feelings that he said no (and in such a manner). Us ladies love postive comments from our FH's and when they bluntly say NO when we want to give him a special gift like that, its like a stab in the gut.

Be up front with him....and then do them anyway. :-) I did and my FH's jaw DROPPED.

I never even asked for his permission to do them...I just did it and Im glad I did.

I agree with Analy with respect to doing them for YOURSELF as well as your FH. I never felt sexier before in my life. I felt so strong and sexy that I would have run down the street in my undies after the shoot...but it was November and I was freezing my bewbs off! (we did some of the shots in an unheated garage)

Are having these pics done the norm? I guess where I live I have never heard of anyone doing them. I think my FH would love them and even if he said no, Id still do them. Unless you think it will make him really unhappy in the long run and he will be that upset with. Really think about it and if you think he might like them, go for it if you want to do it

Maybe he thinks they are "trashy" and you can show him that they are beautiful and an art form, not "trashy"?

You know him best. Would he be upset with you if you went ahead and did them? I feel what you're saying about not doing things because someone said no, but he's not just someone, he's your STB-hubby. Respect for his feelings really isn't an option. You would want the same in return right?

Maybe you should ask him how he feels about you doing them just for yourself. Hell, I have a friend that has taken pictures like that just because. Have a heart to heart with your honey, and let him know why it's important to you. Good luck!

I would show him sample pictures that you like. He might think they are going to be much more racy than you are going for. Once he sees exactly what you mean he might change his mind.

I would do them anyway...

When I think of your situtaion, I am reminded of a news cast about that top model chick that did a boudiour photo shoot with a friend for her hubby's birthday and he got INSANELY PO'd and left her.

I am not by any means saying that is whats going to happen, I'm saying, figure out why he is truly against it. If it's because he thinks it's a waste of money (just an example) then do it as a surprise. If it's something more, like he 100% doesn't think anyone should see you like that, male or female, and he views it as a sort of infedielity (again just an example) then you need to consider if you should go head with it anyway.

Haha Analy, that's kind of like me and my !!!!'s I love them way too much and always sound way too enthusiatic when I type! (see there I go)

But yes, I kind of want to do them for myself too. I'm more of a tomboy, but I still have somewhat of a girly side...buried deep deep within my layers.

I'll talk to him and get a little further into why he doesn't want them. I think I might have just caught him off gaurd with it. We are very open and "experimental" if you will, so I don't think he'd think they are trashy. And it would definitely be one of my very close female friends taking them, so he doesn't have to worry there.

Good idea Jessica, maybe he was thinking porno skank when I told him about them.

FMS I know this is wayyyyyyy TMI but he's made a comment about watching me with another chick before, so I don't think that is it.

Yep. I think talking to him about it, and showing examples is the way to go. Once I showed some ideas to DH of what I had in mind and got enough "that's hot" comments, I knew he wouldn't react poorly to it. I think their minds take it to the extreme automatically...we're all jealous creatures, after all.

My FH is the same way. I know he would love the pics, but he just doesn't want anyone else seeing me. It's fine with me though because I'm going to have him take them on our wedding night lol. He'll be all for that

Well at least I'm not the only one dealing with this. I just thought he wasn't normal (that's still up for debate).

LOL, it was just an example! When I heard that guy went ballistic, I was like "WHAT? Really? That's EVERY guy's dream!!" lol

I was just saying, make sure this won't truly upset him.

I talked to my FH about the same thing and he said no on it too. I asked him why and his response was "I can see you naked anytime.... why would I want pics of it around?" That is what he told me. He didn't care about who would do it, more so in his eyes, a waste of money.