FH DOESN'T want boudoir pics - WTH?!?!? Wanted MEN's opinions!

I haven't talked to my FH about it....I think I want to surprise him. He is a super sexual man...so I'm sure I won't get a hissy fit out of him...(well, once I tell him that a female did it)

My problem is that I'm super shy when it comes to that kind of stuff!! I don't know if I have the guts to. I'm not super comfortable with my body either.

Oops, is it bad that I didn't even think to ask my man what he thought? I can't give you his opinion for another 45 days (I'm keeping it totally a secret until the wedding) but I agree with the other ladies, show him some shots that you like and the "look" you're going for. I know a lot of men wouldn't want to have full on nude, spread eagle hustler type photos of their wife, their wife is a classy pure angel, not a wh*re ya know? I'm not a prude but I don't want any pictures of my husband with his junk hanging out either, but yeah, show him the implied nudes and see what he says. If he's still not going for it, don't do it. Think of how bad you would feel if you did it behind his back and he still hated it.

FMS I'm not sure if you saw the post a while back, this girl that described herself as a "bigger girl" (not saying you're big cause i can only see your head lol) but she was self councious with her body and she said that the pictures made her feel very sexy (as did Analy earlier) I looked at them and they were beautiful. I'm a little self concious with my body as well, I consider myself a lil chunky, nothing major, just about 10-15 extra unwanted pounds and lil bit of celulite so this is kind of why I want to do it to. I want to feel sexy and confident...in doing so I think it may make benefit FH in the bedroom. I hope that all makes sense.

You can still do them but in a less risque' way... There is an episode on Tori & Dean: Storibook Weddings... The "Shabby Chic" episode.... The bride did not want to wear the lingerie but she was still able to do some really cute pictures. I'll try to attach the only pic from the photo shoot that I could find.... Maybe he would more comfortable with that. If the attachment doesn't work go to this link ( http://storibook-weddings.oxygen.com/sbw/photos/episode-3-shabby-chic-wedding#24 ) It is photo #24.

I will say that I would love it if my FW did this for me. I would definitely love to take the pictures myself as well, but getting professional ones done would be amazing.

That being said, if I told her I didn't want them, and I was adement about it (as it sounds like your FH is) I would be more than pissed if she went ahead and did it. That may just be how I would react and your FH might be different but if I was against it and my FW still did it, to me that would be a HUGE violation of trust.

Sounds like a sensible guy!

I have been bashed on this forum for NOT supporting these types of pics. The response of several posters' husbands and future husbands are one of the reasons why. I think many men feel this way. Mine sure does.They like "earthy" pics but sure as heck don't want their wives ( and God forbid their daughters) posing for them. I was scrolling thru old posts and read this older thread. I am standing my ground. Can't wait to read the fury this raises!

Husband here.

I also don't think I'd want these. There are a lot of "if", "then" scenarios. First I would be totally devastated and hurt incredibly if she has really sexy, revealing and/or nude photos with a man present in any capacity, him being the photographer, or the assistant or even if everyone was a lady but they didn't lock the door and other male employees came in. I don't have to explain it, that's how I feel, and we feel how we feel, no apologies needed. I can't control how I feel. If I'm hurt I'm hurt, it just is how it is.

If the photographer and anyone else involved were ladies? I'd appreciate it and I'm sure she'd look AMAZING but then again it still depends on how sexy these were. If they were really sexy photos than I'd be concerned that the photos actually belong to the photographer and she could use them in any art shows, portfolio pictures and website postings. I wouldn't want those photos being used outside of my wife and I. That's kind of a legal sticking point.

To be honest the more sexy and the more nude my wife is the stronger my feelings of "I'll take them myself rather than a stranger and definitely not a man"

If my wife wanted some really beautiful shots for herself and her own personal reasons I'd be on board with having some taken but if someone is going to take them and the photographer is going to own them to do whatever they want with then I'd rather they not be sexy underwear photos but rather a step down from that to where she looks amazing but isn't half naked.

Don't get me wrong I love naked pictures of my wife but I'd just rather she or I take those. If she looks hot but is not naked I'd be open to a lady photographer if only she didn't own the photos and could do things with them without our consent.

I'm surprised couples have issues/problems with husbands being upset about the male photographer along these grounds...don't you two know each other? Don't you know what will bother or hurt the other? Did you two just meet? If a husband is deeply hurt my a male photographer how did the wife not know her husband well enough to anticipate this and not go to a male? Seems odd.

I know my wife knows me well enough to not ever go to a male photographer for anything like this.

Anyway, if the everyone involved were ladies (no men) and we owned everything, the photographer didn't keep rights to use this stuff I'm sure she'd look great. Anyway, if you ladies are thinking about this I'd get a female photographer. If you elect to go with a man and choose to do nude shots you need to be REALLY sure that's something he won't have a care in the world about because that could blow up in your face.