Hi everyone,
I’ll give a bit of context to the situation first: me and my FH have been together for 7 years now and throughout my life with him, his family (particularly dad and sister) have been very exclusive and not very welcoming of me. A few years ago, his dad met his now wife (my FH’s stepmother) and things went further downhill from there. At first, it started out as her not saying hello to me and generally ignoring me whenever I entered their house, which then turned to nasty text messages, indirect Facebook posts about me and being outright horrible. FH’s dad did nothing to intervene and so FH is no longer on speaking terms with his the family because of his stepmother’s and sister’s actions and his dad’s lack of action.
We still occasionally get a nasty text when his stepmother is drunk and his dad still does nothing, despite the state of their relationship. Because of this, FH doesn’t want his family to be at the wedding but part of me feels guilty. It feels wrong to not invite his dad but I absolutely DO NOT want his stepmother there... however we realise we can’t invite one without the other. FH categorically doesn’t want ANY of them there, which also includes extended family because he’s concerned they’ll start an argument in defence of his dad. I’m worried about that too and don’t want the anxiety of having them at my wedding day - but it still feels wrong.
I’m so torn about the whole situation and don’t know what the right thing to do is. Any advice is welcome!