fh going to strip club!?

Talk to him about how you feel. But personally I don’t see anything wrong with it. You are marrying him bc you love and trust him. At the end of it all he’s coming home to you. If someone is going to cheat they don’t need a strip club to do so. Trust that he will do the right thing and If you can’t maybe trust is something you guys need to work on.

I don't understand why people our uncomfortable with this. My fiance has been to strips clubs for every bachelor party he's been to. It's what they do. Don't be controlling. What do you think will happen? He makes out with a stripper? That's not how strip clubs actually operate and if he does, you guys probably have much bigger problems.

Just because you don't understand why someone would be uncomfortable with it doesn't mean their feelings are invalid. OP has the right to feel however she feels about her FH going to a strip club.

OP, if this is really important to you talk to him about it. Put it to him like you did to us....that you're bothered by it but not wanting to seem controlling of his time. Maybe the two of you can come to an arrangement that makes both of you happy.

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FH went to a strip club for his GM’s bachelor party. I wouldn’t personally go to one (they skeev me out) but it was a bachelor party, I had no problem with them going. “No touching” goes without saying for any situation, not just strip clubs. I wouldn’t be marrying him if I thought he was someone who would mess around with a stripper. I’m sure he’ll go to a strip club for his bachelor party, and it really doesn’t concern me.

That being said, you definitely should talk to him about why you’re uncomfortable. Hopefully an open dialogue will reassure you that there’s nothing to worry about!

Why are you uncomfortable?

women dance naked, that’s all. They don’t want your fiancé and honestly will forget about him 10 seconds after they get their money.

For me it wouldn't be a big deal to go for a bachelor party. If it were every week that would be different. I'd probably ask them to not talk about it in my presence though...I trust him but I don't need to hear all the details.

In my humble opinion, going to a strip club shows a lack of imagination. There are so many more fun things for people to do to have fun. How about going to an Escape Room? That's a blast! Going skiing, hiking, camping, trying something new like curling or a trampoline park.

Is a strip club really harmless? Seems like not so harmless for the women making their living this way, being objectified. Ugh.

My FH and his group of guys have all been in each others weddings, and hosted bachelor trips that always involve a strip club, and embarrassing the groom with lap dances or something. It's not something that concerns me in the least. My FH has told me he's not excited about it, but it's become tradition. And it's not the main event of the party either, more just one of those things that they did to the first guy to get married, so now they all have to reciprocate I guess. Men!! They're more interested in harrassing each other than in the strippers themselves. Lol but I'm not worried about it, I trust him not to do anything too stupid. I'm more concerned about them getting into trouble dirt biking or boating or with their drunken camping shenanigans!

Each one think and feel different. To me, if the person who should be called "your man" need to go somewhere for a lap dance to get aroused as last good memory of his happy sexual life, so he doesn't expect to have fun after married. Will you ever forget? Some people just think this is a man night, others will be always with so many questions in the back of the mind. Which type are you? Will you be shame in front of those friends who saw what you will never know? Answer yourself if you can deal with the idea after all and never talk about it again.

Mine wants to go to Vegas.

Let him have fun!!!!! I can't wait till it's my turn! It might make you feel better if you go with him before hand.

My FH and I discussed strippers/strip clubs long ago. I am not okay with them and I am not okay with him going just as he's not okay with a male stripper or strippers. I told him that if he felt the need or want to go to a strip club or have strippers around, then I was not who he wanted to be with or marry. I refuse to have my man come home to me after some other female(s) been dancing on him, touching him, etc... Honestly, if he's not okay with me being a stripper, me dancing on some other mans lap, touching them, etc...then why would it be okay to go? We had a heart to heart about it very early on in our relationship and several times since as some of his buddies were trying to talk him into going and not telling me. He tells me everything. You just have to be open and honest with your FH. He should respect your feelings and not go.

Im forcing mine to go. Have fun see ur last set as a single man... But I'm not most women either... Heck i might go see my last pair as a single woman as well...lol no my girls have one hell of a night planned but im okay with it... Hes marrying you....remember that.

I would not care - it is all about communication. Like PP said - strippers want the money, not y our man. He is a grown man and can do what he wants and personally, I would not (and did not) lay out mandates as to what he could and could not do, ever.