FH hates the idea of engagement photos

We didn't do/aren't doing them. For us, it's not included, I don't think it's necessary, we have next to no free time together right now, and my FH probably doesn't even know that engagement photos are a thing people do.

That said, if they're included in your package, just do it. He will probably end up being glad you put your foot down once you get the photos back.

My FH hates having his picture taken and it's a running joke in his family that you have to take 100 pictures to get one with his eyes open lol! So he was definitely very resistant, but ended up being thankful after the fact that we had time to get comfortable with our photographer. Assure him that he'll be glad that the pictures are being done!

My fh was a pain in the ass about it until we got the photos back and he saw how awesome they looked!

We didn't do them... FH doesn't like his photo taken at all, he does not like the way he looks in pictures... he's sucking it up for the wedding though! If he had his choice, he'd not take any! LOL

TBH I was the one who didn't want engagement photos because I thought they were lame. I also didn't want to do STDs with our picture, but FH insisted. So I relented.

@Olivia P... thanks for the reminder! I"ll make sure to send him a drink before our wedding! LOL

FH was really leery of them at first. couldn't understand why we were doing them, why they were a thing, etc. But they were in our package, and we got to bring our dogs along, which swayed him to being in favor of it. At the end, he told me how much fun it was and how he was glad we did it because it gave us a chance to work with our photographer, find good picture angles, etc.

I also had to drag him along, but he did pretty well for how awkward he is in photos, and we got some good ones lol. I think once we got them back and he got to see them he was happier we did it.

If you guys care about the quality of your pictures on the Wedding Day, you increase your chances of success by having an engagement shoot as not only will you be more comfortable with the photographer but you can review and work out what you like and did not like so the photographer will know what works best the day of for you two.

FH wasn't interested in an engagement shoot. We've done professional shoots on vacations before, so I know it's not about the photos themselves. I think he's most put off by the cost. I have some not-professional photographer friends who are quite talented, though, and he seems willing to do a shoot with one of them. We're just waiting for it to get a little warmer. (Spring hasn't sprung yet in New England.)

I have seen very nice engagement pictures where the couple is doing an activity. Drinking coffee at a meaningful cafe, bowling, etc. perhaps if you're doing something it will feel less weird than just posing and walking. Of course you will have to pose some, but it could work as a sort of training wheels experience before the wedding day.

@mrsFallBride that episode was hilarious!

FH doesn't want to do them really, but he agreed that it would be nice to have more photos of us. Pretty much, he's entertaining me by doing them. He's not a real touchy feely guy in public, so it'll be a little difficult for him.

But to help you out, bribe him, alcohol, and let him decide on a few poses. It helps!

If you hate being on camera, then they're really helpful for getting comfortable with the camera and the photographer. We don't like pictures either, but our photographer agreed to include an engagement session, and I'm really glad. We still look awkward (alcohol would have helped, but oh well), but I think it will help with the day-of shots. Part of it is just I/we are not used to or necessarily comfortable with really any PDA (beyond holding hands or leaning into each other) in front of people. But I'm glad I convinced FH to do it.

My fiancé hates getting pictures taken so we aren't doing official engagement pictures... we are using a very cute picture his mom took of us on Easter for our STDs and over summer we will be Having a family friend do family pictures for us ( FH, myself, and stepdaughter). I plan on having a few of these displayed at the wedding.

We were in the same boat as you - we both thought they were a little corny but I am happy we have some now. FH is indifferent, but that's normal for him We used some for the save the date cards an our website so they ended up being quite useful.

@Susan, I love that you got to bring your dogs!! I wish we could have brought mine, but she is a nutball and most likely wouldn't have behaved herself!

FH thought the whole idea was stupid, but went along with it because it was important to me to get a "practice run" with our photographer before the wedding.

He's a good sport and was happy to do it for me.

FH hated the idea as well. He doesn't see the point in them or in getting comfortable with our photographers. He's agreed to do them for me, but he's really not interested.

I wasn't even thinking about engagement photos because we just got a 3 hour "elopement" style package that didn't include them, but then our awesome photographer offered to include an engagement shoot to be able to meet us and get to know us before the big day. I really thought FH would not want to do it but surprisingly he was super into it. I'm excited to do them so I have an excuse to do my MU trial without wasting it!

Yes, I had to talk my guy into getting them done, since the session was included in our package. He gave in because it was an an opportunity to get to know the photographer, and because I wanted to do it. He thinks some of them are private, though, and doesn't want to share them with anyone. That's okay with me, though, since I don't really like how I look in a lot of them.