FH Makes a FB Post for People to RSVP!

I love his sense of humor! Sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do! As we get closer to our deadline I wouldn't put it past my fh to do the same thing! It's funny, he's more irritated about the lack of RSVPs than I am! Lol

Honestly? Both of those FB posts are inappropriate.

Leave the wedding 100% off FB and follow up individually with people who haven't RSVP'd a few days after the deadline. We received a ton of RSVPs in the three days after the deadline -- a lot of people put them in the mail on the deadline. Don't go hounding people before that.

Oh, man...

I don't post much about my wedding on Facebook. I posted when we got engaged & then shared a few engagement photos, but nothing else. I know other people are more comfortable sharing more.. but I feel weird about it.

A few weeks ago, FH tried to tell me that we don't need centrepieces. I just stared at him until he said "or... we do need centrepieces? um.. you decide"

FH, trying to be helpful while I am working 2 jobs, decided to start hand addressing our invites. His handwriting is not what you would call a nice font for wedding invitations. Sweet sentiment but, like you said, I had to just go "ah, no!"

That is the second post i made about our wedding on FB since we got engaged. I don't like talking about my wedding with many people.

@Lori - i have to disagree with you on mine. Only those who received an invite would make the connection, if they remember.

@Caroline - i think i would react the same way if my FH said we didn't need centerpieces. Just a stair saying, 'you didn't just say that, did you?'

@Stephanie - My FH took a calligraphy class years ago and his hand writing can be spectacular. He didn't do our invites, but he could have.

I see people on Facebook post about RSVPs all the time but they do it in a funny manner like your FH. I think it's totally laughable. My FH never posts anything on social media like ever so it would be strange to see him do that. Hopefully you get some of the RSVPs you need! I'm literally dreading that part lol.

I think what your FH said is funny. A wedding we are going to in August, the FW posted a status asking people to return RSVPs soon and her FH shared the post. If I wasn't on WW, I wouldn't have thought twice about it. I think that is one of those things that only people on here really know is taboo. And these aren't tacky people either nor is the wedding cheap. I just think not all wedding etiquette is common sense.

His post, while inappropriate, is hilarious. I just LOL'd at work.

His post is hilarious. Inappropriate and I'd be mad at DH if he did that, but still funny.

Yours is less inappropriate because it doesn't specifically call out the wedding, but it reminds me of those passive aggressive posts that never actually state the topic and beg people to ask. For example: "I'm so pissed right now" leads to everyone commenting "why?", "what's wrong?", etc. It feels like you want people to ask what's on July 10th.

I think it's rude to remind people to RSVP before the date. Afterwards, bug the hell out of them, but not before.

While not the most tactful, at least he had a sense of humor about it. I too would advise to keep wedding stuff off of FB as much as possible, and to contact people personally about a week after the RSVP date. I think a lot of people will put their RSVP in the mail the day of the RSVP date and it will take a few days to get to you. Not that I haven't posted about my wedding, but I try to keep it to a minimum.

Who can be completely honest and say they leave their wedding off their facebook 100%?? That is just not do-able. Did you not post your engagement announcement the moment it happen on facebook? Did you not share your engagement photos on facebook? I think the post your FH put out is just fine. Actually REALLY funny!! I see that kind of stuff on facebook quite often, and I'd much rather see that than someone upset and venting about the whole thing. I have like 2000 friends on facebook, they better all understand they aren't invited to my wedding. Most people just scroll past it without even thinking, UNLESS they are one with an RSVP still sitting on their kitchen counter.

Super funny and really not that big of a deal! If I was invited to a wedding and the host posted a reminder I would not think its rude or be offended. To each their own I guess!

Funny, but he's about to get buried in the back yard. Lol. *sigh* boys....

I'm really sorry to say this, but yours feels passive aggressive. I agree with the ladies who said this shouldn't be on Facebook, but at least his would make me laugh. Also, it's "supposed", not "suppose". Again, sorry if my opinion is not what you were expecting to hear (read?) here.

@Kassy - my mother is the QUEEN of passive aggressive FB posts. She's always looking for someone to ask her what's wrong....most people don't ask anymore because she's been doing it for years.

@Brit12 - We posted our engagement on FB...i think most do.

@VC - haha!!! don't be sorry if your opinion doesn't match mine. That's what makes the world more interesting.

Etiquette aside, i don't believe my post is passive aggressive at all!

Yea I disagree with the "don't post wedding stuff on facebook" opinion. It's one of the most exciting things you will do in your life, why would you not share that? I posed our e-pics, I have posted a few other random things like photos of the vases I spray painted for centerpieces, etc.

I would NOT however, post a status about RSVPs. I just think that it will make the people that DID RSVP feel uncomfortable and worry that you did not receive theirs. If you want to do it on FB, I would say you should message only the people who did not respond.

Same with your FH's post, while HILARIOUS...I would make my FH remove it.

I think they are both unnecessary. I think your post is worse because it opens the door for people that are not invited to ask "what's July 10th?" and then you have an awkward explanation to make.

LMAO I think his post was hilarious!

I also disagree with the "Don't share things on FB" Why? Because not everyone is invited? That's ridiculous!

So when I get pregnant I can't share that either?

Share what you want. I'm not walking on egg shells about my happiness to spare feelings.

What @MrsPope said!