FH wants to plan honeymoon and surprise me....thoughts?

Can we swap FHs please?

Just kidding, but I totally sympathize because FH is very much type A and hates surprises/not being in control of the situation. I on the other hand love surprises - both getting them and giving them. He's learned to take some trust falls and leaps of faith with me.

I think it's a great exercise for your marriage. Both for you to do something you're uncomfortable with and trust that FH can handle and plan things completely fine without you, and for him to take charge and really show off his ability to be an equal partner in your lives together.

If no one else, you should trust your FH right?

I want to swap as well!! I really really wanted FH to plan our honeymoon and he agreed that that would be fun. Months later and he hadn't planned anything so I had to take over. No fun!

I'm type Z (or whatever the furthest thing from Type A is) and my fiance already plans all of our travel and trips and all of the details, I just pack and go - so for me it would be a total yes. For you, maybe you can compromise and tell him that you'd like to plan it together but he can plan a few surprise activities or restaurants the days you are there.

My FH was planning on doing the same, but he couldn't keep the secret so he told me where we are going(well I actually guessed it).

He is still planning everything though, which is a relief, because I have enough to plan lol

I would love if FH did that! I'd be thrilled!! Thats so awesome!!

@Jenny, that is such a great way of putting it. Thank you!! This is why I love WW lol...because of advice like this. I would have never thought of looking at it that way. But you're totally right!

@Kate, this is my dilemma, too. The thought of him planning everything and me not even knowing what I'm packing for (?!!?) literally gives me nightmares. Also, like you, I've traveled a lot more than FH.

H wanted to do this and I wanted to let him, but he realized how tough it is to plan trips. I was a tour/trip organizer all through college so we went for about a week with the HM being his responsibility and then he changed his mind. We ended up compromising on picking the destination and resort together, and then from there we each made a list of activities we wanted to do and then I scheduled them.

My H actually did this! He successfully planned our 18 day honeymoon in Europe. We had several different locations and I had no idea where we were going next until we got to the airport to go there.

It was amazing. Like seriously amazing.

He is a wonderful planner and has planned most of our vacations in the past, so I wasn't worried about it at all, but if you guys have totally different travel styles I probably wouldn't recommend it.

Details:

-I genuinely had no idea where we were going.

-He told me in general terms what to pack (bathing suit, comfy shoes, etc.)

-He got feedback from a lot of people he knows who have traveled to the places he was considering for their input

-I told him that at least a week had to be spent doing absolutely nothing on a beach (very unlike our typical vacations where we do 5 million things and never stop moving).

Let him plan it. That's romantic! If you must you could have a conversation before hand about what you'd like to see or do. In a general sense.

OP, kudos to you if you take that leap and let FH plan your honeymoon. I couldn't do it. lol. It would probably be more frustrating for my FW to plan it than it would be fun for her. If you decide to go that route make sure you come back and let us know where y'all went!

I did that for FH's 30th birthday! But I have traveled way more than he has, and he is a super relaxed/patient personality type so he doesn't feel that need to know ahead of time.

I am going to be the dissenting voice here and say you two should plan the honeymoon together. Perhaps he could do something like this for you for a birthday or an anniversary in the future. But for me personally, I would absolutely not want to be cut out of planning my own honeymoon! Not because I wouldn't trust FH to do a good job, but because that is something that both people should get a say in.

My FH isn't much of a world traveler either where as I have traveled internationally my entire life. Honestly, there's nothing that can really go wrong so long as you have your passport and money. Everything else can be fixed with those things. Even your phone, if you forget it, you forget it, get map and a local burner and you'll be fine. You don't need to pack all that much.The only exception is if you were going to go to non-vacation spots where there is war, famine, diseases or civil unrest, which I am presuming you aren't.

I am type A, but I would love this, especially after planning a wedding. I would ask him for small details, like weather and activities for packing. Or have him tell a friend who can guide you in packing.

My FW has no idea where we are really going or doing. Well she does think she knows were we are going but once we get to airport it will be a complete surprise to her when she finds out our real destination. she let me plan it all.

I made sure that where she thinks we are going includes the exact same type of attire so she can pack accordingly.

My DH planned our honeymoon, but he asked for my opinions before he booked stuff, so I knew where we were going and what we were doing. Not the same as being completely surprised, but it was nice to not have that responsibility on top of planning the wedding, and this was an area of wedding planning that he was very excited about. It was one of the things he wanted to do, so it made sense that he take the lead.

If you're not up for a complete surprise, maybe your FH would be open to being the lead on planning the honeymoon and showing you what some of the options are so you can tell him "yes I'd like that" or "no, I wouldn't enjoy that" and then he'd still be planning everything, but you would still have a say?

Hard veto from me. I don't like surprises, and wouldn't like a surprise vacation anywhere.

I agree with @Jenny I would LOVE if my FH had a fire to do that. It's so romantic and sweet. I understand where you're coming from though I like to plan everything down to the very very last detail (drives FH nuts). I would just ask him if it's at least a place you want to travel to.

This sounds like literal hell to me. At the very minimum, I would need to know the type of climate so that I could pack, because I don't really think DH could pack to my liking.

I'm not even that controlling. Travel just stresses me out because of the lack of control over my own schedule in an airport, so I can't imagine piling on a mystery destination too.

ETA: DH is pretty much planning the HM, but there is a difference between a complete surprise and him looking into activities we can do once there.

No way in hell. Mine would plan a camping/hunting/fishing trip.