FH wants to plan honeymoon and surprise me....thoughts?

My FH is taking control of our honeymoon. I told him a few necessities (all-inclusive, tropical, relaxing) and now he is planning it all on his own. I don't mind at all

I'm definitely a planner and I'm not super into surprises so it wouldn't work for me. I'd want to be involved in most of the honeymoon planning. I would be up for him planning one or two surprise activities for once we're at the destination though.

I would 100% be on board with FH planning the HM! However my FH is much more into researching than I am, and has also traveled much more than I have.

Doesn't seem like the type of thing to "surprise" someone with... my FH pretty much took care of our whole honeymoon plan (he's good at the kind of thing), but he consulted me before putting money down anywhere. Skip the surprise.

I'm also a type A personality and have a compulsive need to plan everything or at least have a say. My FH is actually doing this for us too and I'm honestly almost 100% ok with it. I did have some input though but that's all I was allowed (I told him I wanted it to be completely relaxing with very little hiking/sightseeing etc and threw out some names of locations I've never been to but have wanted to visit). I am seriously relieved that he's taking this one over bc most of the wedding planning is my responsibility (I wanted it to be that way, see above about type A lol). It'll be nice to not have to worry about something for once. I'm sure it'll be fine regardless bc really we always have a great time together anyway so I'm excited.

I would love my fiance to do the planning and make it a surprise for me. I am very Type A and detail-oriented, as well, and I would NOT want pretty much anyone other than him to plan a trip for me.

BUT he knows me very well, and we have similar tastes when it comes to travel preferences. He is also incredibly organized. He creates a travel binder for every trip that contains all air, transportation, and lodging reservations, food ideas, excursions, etc. And he spends a lot of time thinking about Plan Bs in the event that something goes wrong, so he's a great travel companion. I would not be comfortable allowing someone who just kind of goes with the flow to make all the travel arrangements. I would be nervous that we'd get to the location and discover our hotel is in a bad part of town, the good restaurants are reservation-only and he didn't plan ahead for that, etc.

ETA: Packing would be my main concern with my fiance. There's no way he could pack for me. He'd have to at least tell me the region so I could manage that part on my own.

After all this wedding planning I'd love if my FH did this! However I also am semi type A and I would be a tad afraid that it would get screwed up lol

YES! You won't be disappointed! My FH planned a surprised trip to Europe last fall (where he proposed). He left me a clue a week starting in June of like a plane, passport, picture of a hotel room, pictures of landscape, views, etc. it was SO exciting!!! He told me the weather a couple weeks before so I knew what to pack. I didn't know when we were leaving until we were on our way to the airport and I didn't know where we were going until I had my boarding pass in my hand that morning! Throughout the whole trip I was on a day to day need to know basis! It was so much fun!!!!

I don't know if I could handle that, I'm too type A, too!

This sounds like such an amazingly sweet gesture, but I'd want to make sure that you are both generally on the same page with the kind of honeymoon you want and how planned it will be!

I'm very similar - I'm a type A planner and DH is not I'd just be concerned that DH would pick a place, buy the tickets and reserve a room and then plan nothing else because his ideal vacation is totally go with the flow and "we'll figure it out when we get there". In the end this could be a disappointing surprise for me So I'd get on the same page about honeymoon expectations first, or see if you guys can compromise and split honeymoon days - you get to plan half and he gets to plan half and keep them a surprise!

FH is planning the HM and I'm so excited. I know he will do a good job. And it was 1 less thing to think about. All I know is it's beachy so I can pack accordingly.

I love when FH plans things without me.

^What Jenny said.

I have to say I do like to plan things but I also like surprises, so I would totally okay with it as long as he let me know what to pack.

You should trust your best friend your FH

My FH is 100% responsible for planning the honeymoon, but I'm with you OP. I hate surprises, and the romanticism of it doesn't help my anxiety a damn bit.

I don't really like the judgement implicit in a lot of these comments that "if you trust FH you'll let it go and treasure the surprise"

With that attitude, all of WW should be a huge fan of surprise weddings too. I trust my FH completely, and part of the reason our relationship developed that way is that he respects my extreme distaste for the anxious anticipation of surprises.

FH doesn't want to put me through that stress, so it isn't going to be a total surprise, which is okay. It doesn't mean I don't trust him, it means he respects me, and my comfort levels, enough to keep me posted about what he's thinking: "how would you feel about going to a mountain resort instead of beaches? I'm thinking about Colorado." And he says he'll definitely run the general details by me before booking anything.

Idk how much I'll end up involved with the ins and outs of the details of the trip, but it's kind of the mirror image of how I'm doing the rest of the wedding planning. I check in with him about if he has any strong preferences on a particular aspect, then do the necessary research, then present FH with my ideas/ options about that aspect/ vendor and we pull the trigger on booking together. Most of it is still done with him trusting my opinion and research and just evaluating on the details as I've presented them.

That's how I'm hoping honeymoon planning will go in reverse. I'll trust his opinion and research, but I know he'll respect my opinion enough to run the general details by me to make sure it suits my preferences as well.

Absolutely not. I hate surprises and really don't need another thing to stress out over.

Yeeeaaa that would be a no for me. I'm also type A. My honeymoon is the most money I ever spent on a vacation up to this point in my life -- there's no way I would not have a say in where we went and what we did. What if you end up disappointed? Also, how will you know how to pack? Do you already have a passport? Too many details involved that I just would not feel comfortable not having a say in the planning.

OP, sounds like you and I have VERY similar personalities (so do our FH!). I am a major control freak and don't love surprises, but I think in this case it would be good for both of you! I'm sure your FH knows what you like to do and would plan a great vacation. Plus if you're doing most of the wedding planning it's one less thing on your to-do list

My friend's husband did this. She's also very type A and essentially planned the whole wedding herself. He wanted some involvement somewhere so he planned the honeymoon and surprised her. I think as long as he gives you SOME guidance like what to pack, if it's going to be an active trip or something relaxing, etc. it's romantic and a cool idea to be surprised.

I love that idea