Fh’s Niece and Nephew

My nephew is 13 and doesnt want to be part of the bridal party, so I have thought about giving him a camera to take candid photos. We are having a professional photographer. I dobt know if this Would be something you would like your niece and nephew to do. I have also read that other things family members including kids can do, is to do a reading during the ceremony.

I'm having my nephew's included by walking down with signs one will read "happy ever after starts here with a heart with our initials in it" and the other will read "just wait till you see your bride" wording is being worked on as we are still trying to agree but there's an idea search pintrest and Google tons of great ideas

They could escort her or serve as juniir bridesmaid and groomsman.

Why not have them just come down the aisle in front of her and take their places in the pews next to their family?

I like the idea about walking down with signs. I'd also be nervous that she could accidentally grab the rings and throw them with the petals if they're directly under them. Have you considered this? Will they be in a ring box or something?

My cousin was really sad that her little sister was a flower girl and she wasn’t, (she has been a flower girl before, and we already have multiple flower girls,) and really she just wanted to be with all of us as we got ready for the day. (She is 7.) I asked her if she would be our “bridal assistant,” helping us get dressed and helping us all get ready for the big day, making sure everything looked the way it was supposed to. She has really taken to this role, telling her sister how the bridal assistant is the most important job of the whole day! Lol! She will also be handing out bells with her brother for our sendoff!

I was thinking have niece and nephew walk down the isle together,have both girls throw flowers.

Honestly? Let them cry. You don’t owe them (or their parents) anything and not everyone needs a job in the wedding.

I think if the point is to give your daughter her own spotlight, your niece and nephew shouldn’t be walking down the aisle. I’m probably the UO here, but I don’t think they need roles. I get that they may be upset, but finding some throw away role for them just to appease them seems senseless to me.

They can pass out programs.

Let them pass out programs, bubbles, anything else you might be using for the ceremony.

We had our nieces 8 & 10, and my cousin 11 hand out programs. They also help with the gift exchange. One gave my husband the gift I got for him, the other gave me a gift from my husband. Since we didn't have a bridal party the 11 year old held my bouquet during the ceremony, she stayed seated though.

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100% agree.

What about a Jr. Bridesmaid and Jr. Groomsmen or Jr bride and Jr groom?

Why do the niece and nephew need to be in the wedding? They can sit with their parents just like other kids.

View Quoted Comment Oh no, they’ll be in a box, no worries lol

I'm going to agree with both Susan and Sarah (since I can't quote both). My niece won't be in my wedding. At first I thought of having a few flower girls (niece, best friend's daughter, and my own) but it's really unnecessary. Not everyone needs a title. If you're feeling overly guilty, buy them a charm bracelet it something. In a matter of months, they won't care if they were in your wedding or not.

I understand you 100%! My mother told my sister she was a bridesmaid and my nephew was a ring bearer right after I got engaged. That was definitely not the plan and by the time I found out, it would've been a lot of drama to tell them no.
So I plan to give the BM and MOH our rings and have my nephew walk in front of my flower girl with a sign or something. Or he can lead the wedding party down the isle/walk with his mother since she does not have a GM to walk with.
I also see there's a really popular idea for ring security kids, maybe you can make them more of seating security. If you're doing pamphlets, have them hand them out.

To be very honest, I'd prefer they weren't in the wedding at all. His other sister (FSIL) got married in 2016 and because neither the bride or groom have children of their own, the groom's two nieces and my future niece and nephew were in the wedding (3 flower girls and one ring bearer), so they've already been in one wedding. Because of that, his niece automatically assumed she'd be flower girl before I even had a chance to discuss things with FH. She approached me saying she wanted to pick her own dress from David's Bridal lmfao.
So I proposed this idea a while ago and revisited last night where he finalized that my daughter will take both roles. I assumed that would be the end of the conversation but then he mentions "if the hardest decision I have to make is what jobs to give my niece and nephew, I'll be able to figure it out."
So....yea....

I have 3 kids, 3 nephews and 2
nieces all are participating in our wedding (cultural). My 13 y/o boy and 11 y/o niece will be Jr GM and Jr. BM. My 2 y/o nephew will be RB (he’ll walk with my oldest son). My 2 y/o twins niece and nephew will walk with bells and my 5 y/o son and 2 y/o daughter will hold a sign “daddy here comes our mommy”. I’m sure handling all these kids is going to be challenging but it’s very important for us that they are all included. I don’t have BP so it’s the kids and then me walking down the aisle.