Fiancé and i disagreeing on how to get married

I think this is something you both need to talk about, including IGNORING what his parents think. (Unless he lives with them/they are supporting him, why do they have any say in your living arrangements?)

There are many options - you could sublet for a few months, you could move in together, you could get a short lease, or a long lease with someone lined up to take over... you could do the courthouse or wait until October.

But I think you need to start your marriage in a healthy way - a way in which neither of your parents have a say in how you manage your relationship.

You both need to decide what you want without any concern for his parents. People are old school, but times have changed. LOTS of people live together before marriage and that's no one's business but the people in the relationship.

I wouldn't let my parents opinions influence my living arrangements. You are both adults, do what is best for you.

My (future) husband didn't want a wedding and only wanted to elope, however I wanted the big wedding. We decided to compromise and actually went to the courthouse on Nov 9, 2018 with just him, his parents, me, and my parents. It was extremely intimate and beautiful! Then, this Nov 9th (45 days, but who is counting...) we will be having the big wedding! It gave us time to appreciate and enjoy our first year of marriage, as well as save up money for the big wedding. Not sure if this helps, but I'm sure you two will work it out! I honestly don't think it would cheapen anything, it is still an intimate wedding ceremony and I consider it our real wedding day.

I have to agree with PP. We're all adults and planning our weddings, our parents should not have that much influence on our living situations. I have learned to allow my parents to have opinions as long as their number one priority for me is to be healthy and happy. Not that you can change how your FH feels and reacts to his parents, but it is important you establish boundaries in your relationships.

Honestly, I think that's a MUCH stronger argument for living together NOW.
It's going to be an adjustment for all of you, but particularly for your son, who will need a lot of time to adjust to having 2 parents all the time. Your FH is going to have to adjust to parenting 24/7, not just when he sees you. You'll need to adjust to having someone around to help with parenting.

You all need to learn to live as a family unit, and it's better to do it earlier, so the wedding doesn't become this harbinger of huge, massive change.

My mom is religious and of course is against my fiance and I living together. We did it anyways and told her about it later. It's always easier to ask for forgiveness than permission, though you don't need either to make adult decisions about your life!

100% agree with this!