Fiancé brothers girlfriend

Your wedding isn't the time to try to get close to someone. Your bridal party should be reserved for your nearest and dearest. I would find other ways to bond with her. Tell your FH if he wants her in the wedding, she can stand on his side.

No you aren't wrong. I am also speaking from experience. I asked my husband's brother's wife to be a bridesmaid, in the hopes that it would bring us closer together. Well, that back fired...and I ended up stuck with someone that I was uncomfortable being around and I knew didn't really like me all that much. If I could do it all over again, I 100% would have gone a different route, and asked someone I am much closer to. If I were you, I'd just let your FH know that you understand his reasoning, but aren't comfortable making her a bridesmaid, and ask him to respect your wishes.

I wouldn't. First of all, partners of siblings are usually not in the bridal party. Second of all, as someone else said, this is an honor for those closest to you. Third of all, and this may be a little harsh, but she's a girlfriend of a yearish at this point. If they break up, do you want to look at photos with this random girl years later?

There is nothing wrong with her not being part of the bridal party, you don’t have to have both halves of the couple. Many times, I’ve seen even married couples where only one person is in the wedding party! Please don’t feel any pressure to have her be part of your bridal party, only have those closest to you. They have been together a year, who knows how long that will last too, and you will have her in all your pictures if you add her.

Tell your FH that you are happy to bond with her, invite her out to lunch, whatever, but that you want to reserve this honor for those you’re closest to. As PPs said, the wedding party isn’t the place to get to know someone, it’s a place to love and support the bride and her FH. If you aren’t there yet, there is zero pressure to include her. Chances are she’d find being included a little uncomfortable anyway since you aren’t that close.

No I think it's well within reason to not want her in your wedding party

I don't think you should ask aha. There's plenty of chances later to become closer..

Nope. Not a wise choice to have her in the wedding party as you do not truly know her.

No way. Most of these “someone else wanted so and so in my wedding party so I did” stories end badly. Being in a wedding party rarely brings non-close people closer, in fact there are a lot of occasions to strain the relationship— not a good opportunity for relationship building. Your bridal party = your decision, not your fiancé’s, and it should be your nearest and dearest.

No you should not ask her to be part of your wedding if you aren't close with her. Inviting her as a guest is enough.

Nopeeeee, who knows if they'll be together a year from now and then you have this random person in your pictures. Keep it close knit!

I wouldn't include her. Invite her to the rehearsal dinner & include her in a few family pictures to be nice, but she shouldn't be your BM if you aren't close.

Nah. I dont think adding someone to your wedding party would make you closer. I think it would be semi Awkward if you arent close currently.

You're not wrong. Your attendants are who you want to be up there with you. If you don't feel close to her I wouldn't have her. I was pressured to have my FH's daughter and I caved and it backfired

I agree with you, it would be weird to ask her to be in your BP. Your BP should consist of only your closest friends. Stick to your original plan!

I was dating my FH for about a year and a half when his older sister got married. It never once crossed my mind that I should be in her wedding party. If you don't feel close to her, she probably doesn't feel that close to you either. I was however included like a family member which was so nice. I was invited to the bachelorette party. I went to the rehearsal dinner with the family. I got ready with bride, bridesmaids and moms the morning of. I sat with the family at dinner. She got me a little boutonniere to show that I was in the family. I also helped a lot the day of setting up and coordinating things. She got me lip gloss as a thank you. I think the little stuff like that would be more appropriate.

I agree with Michaela. You should not feel obligated at all to ask her. You could invite her to your events, like your shower and rehearsal dinner, but asking to be a BM is a bit much. This is your choice, just like his GMs are his, and he should respect that you made your choice and don’t feel comfortable with her being in such a personal role. If you’re willing, you could ask her to participate elsewhere, like manning the guest book table, or helping people to their seats. But wait until you’re close to the day to make sure they’re still together when you ask

Don’t do it. Explain to him that the bridal party is for your closest friends and family, who are the people you want standing by your side when you tie the knot. I was also unsure about my bridal party, and asked my FH’s best friend (and best man) girlfriend to be a bridesmaid. She has been nothing but rude to everyone and being a diva. Her true colors came out and now I’m nervous having her around for events because she insulted my sister (MOH) was rude to my FMIL, and is all around negative. My MOH, bridesmaid and bridesman are my ride or dies and will be in my life forever. She might not be 🤷🏼‍♀️. It’s just not worth the added stress if you’re unsure.

She's not his wife or even his fiance. There is no guarantee she will be in the picture long-term and that could put a lot of pressure on your FBIL to make her long-term. Plus, you don't want to look back at photos with some girl in it who is no longer part of your life. You could ask her to come hang out with you while getting ready. That is a super intimate moment (at least it was for me) and could be a nice gesture but you do not have to do anything you aren't comfortable with. Also, she/you could also be making an effort to become friends in a much less intimate setting. Grab a cup of coffee together, go shopping. Baby steps.

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Agree 100%! You shouldn't add people to your bridal party out of obligation. Tell him she is more than welcome to be a groomswoman.