Fiancé calls hair ugly after trial

Picture?

Do you have a pic? Imo if you love it then that's really what mattera. I refused letting my FMIL see my trial BC she is judge and I didn't want to feel self conscious.

Do you have a picture? There might be slight adjustments that could be made if we see a picture.

I'm sorry... Ultimately it is your choice, obviously it isn't totally hideous since you liked it, but perhaps it is much different from how they are used to seeing you or just doesn't look like 'you'. If you wear your hair down or in a pony 95% of the time then get a fancy updo, it might appear overdone to them

Yeah do you have a picture?

I don't think prom hair is ugly. All it is is a formal updo. Maybe they don't get that it's essentially the same thing. It is very disheartening that your Fiancé doesn't like it, though.

For me, I would care more about how I like it than anyone else. My SO doesn't like the way I do my hair all the time. He hates it when I straighten it, he thinks I should leave it naturally wavy. He doesn't like me dying it blonde, he thinks I should dye it back to my natural dark blonde. I don't really care though, because I will have my hair as I like it.

Your hair is supposed to be fancy and prom looking because it's a formal event. It's a wedding! After your makeup is done and your gown is on everyone will love it! They just can't picture you all dolled up in casual clothing. If you love it, go for it!

Same thing happened with me when I got my hair done for e-pics. Everyone liked my hair except FH. I was on the fence about it so I know it'll be different for the wedding.

He said I looked like an old granny from the south *eye rolls*

I just told him tough shit, if I liked it then I'm keeping it. If you don't like me in all my different styles than tough shit, deal with it or don't marry me.

It won't look prom-y with a veil and wedding dress on. Ultimately it's your day and your choice. My FH's opinion is often different than mine, but if I love something he just says "well it's very you and your style" so stick with what you want!

Are your FH and FMIL in the habit of telling you that you look ugly??!! Seriously, that's rude af! If they didn't like the style, or thought it looked dated (when I think "prom hair" I think an updo that is too tight, too tight curls, etc. which is not really in style right now) there is a much nicer way to say it.

I'd love to see a picture!!! There could be little things you could change or maybe they just don't have any style. Besides it was a normal day when they saw you, on your wedding your FH will think you're absolutely gorgeous no matter what, he should just be so overjoyed that he's marrying the love of his life your hair is gonna be the last thing he looks at. And if you love it then don't even worry about what your FMIL thinks. It's your wedding and your hair so do what you want. If it makes you feel beautiful I say go for it

I'm so sorry that happened to you. It sucks when you love a look and FH doesn't. If you post a pic we'd be able to help and tell you how it looks? Guys don't always have the best fashion sense either lol

As for you FH I'm sure he didn't mean it viciously, it could be something hes not used to seeing on you, or he may just not be a fan. He loves you and wants to marry you so I don't think he was intentionally trying to hurt your feelings (and if he was then hes an ass and dump him) and FMIL may just been have been agreeing with her son out of support for him. A picture would be helpful. FH and myself always ask eachothers opinion on how we look and hair styles and what not, simply because we always throw the line "your the one that has to look at me, do you like it"

That's when I'd call him ugly and make him take me out to dinner ;-) just kidding, but h and i have that type of joking relationship.

Go with what you want. He's going to think you look beautiful no matter what. H requested my hair be down in a sort of vintage side swept look which he loves on me, but when I did the trial I realized my hair kept blowing in my face, it went flat easily, and if I was dancing the night away I would have felt too hot with my long hair against my neck and back. So I opted for an updo instead after telling him I just couldn't do it. It wasn't what he wanted or pictured but he ended up loving it.

It's a package deal too. You can't really see the hair without the make up and the dress and know how it's all going to look together. He probably just couldn't picture it at the time.

I'm in the minority I guess, but if the man your marrying doesn't like it, why would you intentionally do something he doesn't like? It wasn't ideal the way he said it, but at least you know now and you can ask him more details to see if there is any way you can change it up? I certainly wouldn't want me husband thinking I looked silly on our wedding day and I don't understand why anyone would willingly do that.