Fiancé does not make time for anything

Put planning on hold until you get this resolved. Have a conversation that the wedding cannot take place if he doesn’t help. Wedding planning is an indication of how marriage is approached: will he sit back and wait for you to decide everything with no input from him?


Figure out what his hesitations are. Does he not want any part of it because it has a stigma of being planned by and for women only and the groom shows up as a guest? Is he overwhelmed with decision paralysis? Or something else? Are there planning areas he has an interest in researching and taking care of such as food/bar, music, etc? Get all of those questions answered and workload split between you before you pick up planning again. You should not be doing anything on your own because you are not marrying yourself.

Is he overwhelmed with all the details that go into planning a wedding? Or maybe he doesn't know what to do? In the end, it's just as much his wedding as it is yours, and he should be helping plan. If he refuses to help, then I would put wedding planning on hold and work through these issues with him. I sometimes look at wedding planning as a preview of how the marriage will go: it can indicate how couples will budget, communicate, divide up tasks or work together on tasks, handle unexpected issues, etc. If one person is doing all the work and the other won't help even when asked, that's a concern. A good start could be to have a conversation about wedding planning, and what tasks each of you are willing to take on.

I'm kinda of in the same boat. My fiance is just a real easy chill personality. He just wants to marry me. But there are some things he voices his opinions on. Then some stuff he is just a yes man. Talk to him see what his strengths are. Good luck.