Fiance does not want a wedding!!! Help Im in tears!

Couples counseling. Him getting angry and you in tears is a sign that something is seriously wrong with communication and compromise. Address these issues now before you're legally bound to one another.

Couples counseling. What exactly is he angry about? Having a wedding, getting married in general or something else?

What is he angry about? Definitely go to couples counseling and learn some communication strategies.

Ask why he's so frustrated. Most people get into the "screw it" attitude during planning at some point. If he's worried about people judging, ask what specifically makes him think that way. A small backyard wedding should cut those judge-y people out.

Im thinking hes upset because we dont have many friends. That what i was thinking. A small wedding will keep the drama at bay lol. I just dont want to have a wedding and him be sour the whole time

A lot of people want to skip the wedding when they start seeing prices and have to plan, but he shouldn't be angry about it. He should definitely not be making you cry. I think counseling is a good start. It would provide you both with an opportunity to give your standpoint and not argue or get emotional.

You guys need to be on the same page about the wedding. I can see him being frustrated with everything and wanting to say "fuck it" (I went there a few times during planning too), but H and I communicated what we really wanted to each other and we made it through.

Sounds like you two need to learn how to communicate with each other a little better.

Counseling!!! It's nothing to be ashamed about. The counselor will give you tips on how to better communicate with each other and "games" to get you guys closer. It helps!!!

My FH doesn't have many friends, at least none that will fly in from Canada. So I understand completely. I'm really wanting to do something small. I feel bad because it'll be pretty much all my friends and family attending the wedding. I've talked to a few of my friends, and they want to plan double date nights, when he's back in town next month, get the hubbies together. They said they embrace him and will rally behind us and make him feel welcome. Two have offered to be groomsmen for him. We may not have many friends, but those we do have are amazing. don't focus on numbers so much, that's what I'm doing. I'm focusing on who we want there, and taking it from there.

I agree with PP, counseling will be good. Communication is so important.

Is a destination wedding possible? If you are worried about attendance, maybe have a small group (family, closest friends) join you for a destination wedding, and after that you can take your honeymoon in the same place? I know a few people who have done that.

Definitely would suggest counseling to help both of you get on the same page and help with communication! Wedding planning is stressful, for sure, but should be fun for both of you!

Oh no! You should tell him that it doesn't matter what other people think, no matter what you do people will always find something to judge about your wedding as long as it makes you 2 happy. Perhaps really listen to the reasons why he doesnt want a wedding and offer options of how you two can fix those reasons.

How long have you been engaged? How old are you guys? Are you in a pretty solid position financially?

Oh no! So sorry to hear about FH... his anger towards your feelings is unfair. He needs to communicate the WHY.

Ugh.. I would have cried too!!

He doesn't want to get married, or he doesn't want to have a party?

Don't let this overwhelm you. Talk to him and see if maybe there is another reason why he doesn't want to have a wedding. It's just as much his wedding as it is yours. Just because you've been dreaming about it doesn't mean it's something he wants. I hope things work out

If he can't do something small when it's obviously something so important to you, maybe this isn't for you too. Your spouse should want to do anything for you and visa versa.

I sometimes feel like you can either have something very simple with a very small group or you have the whole big wedding. A lot of these low budget weddings look cheesy and it seems like he'd rather use the money for something more practical than risk putting so much money into something half assed. You have to communicate to figure it out though. Pushing back your date will give you more time to save for what you want, but you really have to figure out what it is he wants too.

Sounnds like he wants to marry you, but is overwhelmed with the planning aspect of it and being judged by others. Maybe settle on something super small, with only people you know would NEVER judge and tell him you'll handle the bulk of the planning.

Can you compromise?

Just breathe and give it a week or two. He may just be stressed or burned out. Then approach it rationally and explain what you want. If he isn't willing to compromise or doesn't care what you want, that's a bad sign for things to come.