Fiance does not want a wedding!!! Help Im in tears!

Couple's counseling

Having a wedding and getting married are not mutually exclusive. And if you're looking forward to it and he knows it's important to you, that's selfish of him to take that away from you. There's a difference between not wanting to spend the cash and wanting to be with you forever. It's just best to figure out what it is he doesn't want if it's your marriage or the wedding. And if he knows it's important to you, then that's just selfish and you don't want to be bound to that

Is there someone he would really like to have there but can't be there? Such as a deceased loved one or one no longer in the picture for some reason?

When my mom died, I said screw it to weeding planning and pretty much gave up on my dream of a beach wedding. I couldn't even think about a wedding without getting angry and crying and getting depressed. I wanted to just go to the court house and skip all the ceremonial stuff and the party also b/c most of our friends won't be attending. BUT it was important to FH to have a proper ceremony with family and freinds. Although most of our friends from PA won't be attending we've made other friends since moving to Ralieigh and have invited them.

Give him some time to come around, it might be a sore subject and he might not have fully processed things yet. Hopefully he will come around and tell you what he's dealing with so you can help. If not maybe seek counseling to work through things. I wish you the best, you deserve your special day.

Maybe he is just angry and doesn't mean no Wedding give Him time perhaps some premarital counseling would be the best thing for y'all

My FH said he wanted a back yard wedding, and then when i found my venue he saw how happy i was. . . I am planning most everything as he doesnt like that kind of stuff.

But he sees how happy it makes me and his family (his mom that is coming from over seas) and that got him excited.

What did you and fiancé agree on? My weddings 2 months out and I’m considering cancelling. He was on board with planning. Then wasn’t on board. And I haven’t been able to plan anything for a few months. I’m stressed and upset and I don’t know why. Curious how your situation panned out.

The best advice I could give anyone who hopes to be happily married is the advice my grandmother gave me when I asked her what the secret was to her very long, very happy marriage to my grandfather. .
"You both have to want the same things in life."
I would add that recent research adds an important caveat to that homespun advice:Relationships succeed when a woman is able to influence her male partner. Women tend to have more of a psychological "trait" called "agreeableness". Men are much lower in "agreeableness" overall. If you can't get him to understand and be be influenced to have (within reason) the wedding you want, it does not bode well for a future marriage with him. It may be that he simply has serious emotional problems or, and I regret to say it, you may simply not be a woman who he cares deeply enough about to allow her to influence him. Whichever it is, it says so much more about him than anything at all about you.It's really a red flag warning saying that all may not be well in the relationship. Men generally know that weddings are important to women. If he's disregarding your feelings on something so obviously important to you you'll likely have a lifelong battle over everything of a similar nature and so probably will your future children. For more about predicting the success of relationships using the science of psychology, read the books of Drs. John and Julie Gottman. Best wishes for your future happiness.