Fiancé doesn't have anyone one to be his Best Man...has anyone else had this problem?

Where are u from?! Maybe our fhs can do eachother a solid. Lol

How about your father being his best man, after he walks you up the aisle? I recently had a couple of women get married and one family was totally against it. The mother of one bride was the honor attendant for one bride, and the father was the honor attendant for his daughter. It sent an amazing, powerful message of how much that family embraced the other partner, and it was wonderful.

Hey, weddings are all about creating families, and he will be part of yours!

Thanks everyone for your comments and suggestions! I really appreciate it

My DH escorted by SIL when I married her to my brother. SIL's parents are deceased and my DH is the eldest male in our family. She asked me if he would. I told her that I thought he'd be flattered if she asked him. She did and he said yes.

Think outside the box!

LOL Fay. Asbury Park!

Celia- I have to be honest, i have been thinking of having my father just stand beside him after walking me down the aisle. Not a bad idea.

I was looking for an answer as well. My fiance has been married before and lived in Europe for 4 years and lost ties with friends from there, he also doesn't have friends. He was always taking care of his mother and his brother was my best friend who wants to be a brat about it and not be cordial with me aka blocking me on social media and my phone is on his rejection phone line. Usually that wouldn't bother me, but we are supposed to be family now and this was a huge red flag to my fiance that his brother is not behind us and will. it stand up with us. He is choosing my cousins and best guy friend, but again he isn't very close with any of them.

I came on looking for an answer, my fiance is in the same boat. He took care of his Mom since she was really sick on top of being crazy and abusive. He didn't really have childhood friends he kept in touch with and he lived in Europe for years with no co tact of his friends in Europe. His brother was my best friend who introduced us and encouraged us to get to know each other, but he ended up liking me and has not shown that he can be cordial with me, so since he can't be behind us, he will not stand with us at the wedding. He wanted to make my friend our best man and maid of honor lol weird, but we don't know what to do, I have 5 ladies and he has 4 groomsmen who are a mixture of my family and good friend. I don't know what to do

We're in the same boat. My FH doesn't have anyone he's close to to stand up with him. My best friend is supposed to be my MOH and I thought about having her gf stand up with him but they're not that close. He doesn't want to pick one of his 4 brothers either. We have some time because the wedding isn't for a little over a year but I feel bad that he doesn't have anyone right now.

My fiancé is in the same boat. His Portuguese siblings from Portugal are against him marrying an overseas slavic woman (me) - because they think I’m some mail order or goldddigger, and he had no real close friends since he is an introvert. His parents are happy though because he found someone and because I’m white (their words not mine, they’re old fashion, but their siblings are modern liberals). Anyhow how do we deal with not finding any groomsmen? It’s gotten to the point we were originally going to do a Catholic wedding, but because he had little support from his side of the family instead have a Russian orthodox wedding in Moscow (but this will further isolate his relationship with his family). He’s on board to having a Russian wedding and he’s learnt the language, it’s almost as if he feels betrayed by his Portuguese heritage and instead has embraced Russian culture, he wants our future kids to be raised Russian that’s how bad it’s gotten.

I know this post is over 10 years old, but I’m going through this problem for myself. My fiancée has many friends and family to be on her side, and I don’t have a friend to ask. I have very small family, great father, but I feel embarrassed that I don’t have any true or even close friends at this point in my life. I’ve always felt like a loner and shy, even when I was always surrounded by people in my life. I played collegiate soccer and had teammates from college and growing up, but never got too close. I’m introverted, put up walls and always kept to myself really. I fear this is my consequence of being quiet and an outsider. I think women would be surprised if they knew how many men are lonely or depressed. I love this girl more than anything and don’t want her to hold anything back on her end with bridal parties and having all of her friends around her. I also don’t want her friends or family to look at me differently for being nearly alone. Past and future brides, would this bother you if he had no friends? I want the best for this girl, and this situation doesn’t make me feel like I’m not doing enough.

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As to your question, that is dependent on the couple and their relationship. Some brides are empathetic and do not hold it against the groom if he had no friends or other support (or the tables may be turned where she doesn’t have loved ones to invite and he does) because sometimes that is how life happens. And their loved ones don’t judge the partner for not having a big crowd of guests because they don’t know all the details behind it nor is it their business to ask. Other brides may be less empathetic and see it as a character flaw, and that is not a good look for them. You are doing the best you can so don’t beat yourself up. This is something that you need to candidly discuss with your fiancé and get on the same page with before moving forward with planning.