My fiancé and I recently got engaged and have now started the wedding planning process. We both want a small and affordable wedding due to our plans to buy a house in the coming months. When making our budget we decided to factor in what our families would want to contribute, so we decided to ask them. I asked both my parents (they are divorced) if they had plans to contribute to the wedding and they both said they wanted to pay for various things. However, things got a little weird when my fiancé asked his parents if they wanted to contribute to the wedding. His parents made some comments that the bride’s family should pay for everything and they felt “uncomfortable” that my fiancé would ask them such a thing. After a few conversations between my fiancé and them (I was not involved directly), they still wouldn’t give him a straight answer, so we decided to not ask again. My fiancé is a hurt and upset they don’t want to contribute anything to the wedding and to be honest, I am too. His parents are very well off and have the means to contribute if they wanted to. A little background on us. We are in our late 20’s and both have good jobs and are paying for 90% of the wedding ourselves. My fiancé had a full ride to college and worked a full time job during school to support himself, so his parents did not pay for his education. I, on the other hand, had student loans my mom recently helped me pay off. Basically I understand no one is obligated to contribute to our wedding, but I still find it odd they don’t want to contribute anything. He also made it clear we were not just asking for money, simply wondering if they wanted to contribute to the wedding in some way. For example: my family has also offered to throw us a few different parties leading up to the wedding already as well.
Just wondering if anyone else experienced something like this and has some advice.
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