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Beginner June 2022

Fiancé is so indecisive it’s driving me insane.

Marisa-, on April 9, 2021 at 9:34 AM Posted in Planning 0 5
So, long story short, I feel like everything has become a roller coaster ride. My fiancé and I were scheduled to get married in June 2022. My family was going to help us with some planning and financial stuff which we were both very thankful for. My fiancé got a great job opportunity out of state, but that caused a lot of issues. My family decided to back out of helping us completely bc we were moving. We had to cancel a venue we already booked because we wouldn’t be able to afford it. So we decided if we get married earlier, it would make the move easier. Because then we would just put our money towards all living expenses and personal stuff. The wedding is on July 18th this year, and I have to say I am proud of us. We made the decision in March and we already have a venue, photo/video, DJ, rings, my dress, guest list, registry, and I’ll have invites and flowers ready to go by the end of the week. And we are doing it on our own. We went from 150 guest to 90, but I’m sure not all will be able to come. My family has been okay with our decision but I have gotten some snarky comments but I block it out. We’re paying for it all so it doesn’t matter. So when we made the decision of moving up the wedding, we said let’s have our MOH/ best man and our best friend next to us. We thought it would be stressful for everyone to have to drop money so quickly on tux/ dresses and all that. We said yes to that. So my MOH booked me and her a makeup artist and my bestie said she’ll do her own because she’s an MA too. So we went to our tasting yesterday and the chef ask about our wedding parties. I told him what we agreed on, and my fiancé just had this “ehhh” look on his face.
I was confused.

Out of nowhere he hits me with, “ I think we should go back to what we had for our bridal party” what??!!! Since when??!! I told him why would you change your mind now? After my MOH kinda got everything together. I understand he wants his boys up there but my god I wish you told me that. Add another stressor to everything. Through our engagement my fiancé has been so back and forth with decision making it drives me crazy. I told my bridesmaids and they are on board and I started looking at dresses. I’m just so concerned about telling my MOH (who is my sister) because I don’t want any pressure on her to book more people to help with the morning of. I already told them I don’t need a Bach. Party or bridal party because it’s cutting close to the date, but I was furious. He doesn’t understand that bridesmaids is more work. I just don’t know how to tell my sister

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Latest activity by Veronica, on April 10, 2021 at 6:40 PM
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    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    I mean… I know it isn’t ideal… But seeing as how your Bestie is a make up artist, do you think she would be willing to do the other extra people’s make up on that day? It’s definitely a lot to put on other people to change plans and such but it’s not like they won’t be going to the wedding anyway. I feel like I am more of the indecisive one and my FH is the one that has to deal with my indecisiveness LOL.


    So when I think about how my FH would handle this news if I told him this, he would honestly just take it as a new challenge and find a way to make it work. Just try to I think more calmly about it and try to be sensitive to the fact that we as indecisive people also hate how indecisive we are. I know it puts extra stress on you, but try not to stress too hard. Think about all of the things that were accomplished by the both of you! You both made an agreement on finances and stuck to it! We both worked really hard and saved up and are paying for your own wedding yourself! That alone isn’t easy for many couples to do especially in decisive people who contemplate about “should we spend this much or should we not “type of deal. Just try to embrace it and be patient with him. Good luck
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  • Nicole
    Devoted August 2022
    Nicole ·
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    You can always keep your plans unchanged while your fiancé changes his. No need to be responsible for and worry about his decisions. If he wants a best man, or 10 groomsman, and he flip flops on it, that's for him to deal with. You don't have to change your decision every time he changes his. Just keep your MOH and your plans if you want!
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    VIP January 2019
    Maggie ·
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    I agree with this. From what was posted, it doesn't seem like this particular bout of "indecisiveness" will actually affect anyone but the groom and his attendants.

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  • Heather
    Super November 2021
    Heather ·
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    I also agree!! Since it's changing his side it does not necessarily have to change yours up. Stand your ground girl! Let him know that while he wants to change this or that you are going to stick with what you already have on your end. My FH is pretty indecisive as well Smiley ups . Whenever there is a moment where he is indecisive I just tell him to figure it out LOL! I feel like it's a little petty, but like... Get it together man! Smiley xd

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    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    My advice would be to ask your bridesmaids if they would want their makeup professionally done. If some of them do then I would recommend that you (not your sister/MOH) reach out to the makeup artist that was booked and see if they can accommodate the extra girls. It is honestly the bride's responsibility handle vendors rather than someone else.

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