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Savvy October 2022

Fiancé isn’t being helpful

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Kristian, on March 12, 2022 at 6:38 AM

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Our wedding is in October and for the most part, our wedding planner and I have done almost all the planning. My fiancé was there when we chose the venue, but the rest was up to me because he’s the type to be the “whatever you want” guy. He’s in college and I understand how overwhelming school can be, but I’ve asked simple tasks from him which he hasn’t even done, like ask his side of the guest list for their addresses. He said the wedding isn’t his priority right now, it’s school and streaming. I’m not sure what else to do because he tends to blow up at the me rementioning the things I’d like him to do.

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Paige · on March 14, 2022 at 11:41 AM
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I'm sorry you're going through this. Counseling sounds like a great choice to address some of these issues. Like everyone has said, there's always going to be something to be stressed over, but at the end of the day we all have to be adults and get things done. FH and I got engaged at the end of grad school, and we picked a date that would allow us to do a handful of planning things before we graduated, take a break while we studied for/ took licensing exams, and then still have enough time to plan so we wouldn't be in a huge time crunch afterwards. Then the pandemic hit and we had to work around it. Unexpected and stressful stuff happens. I'd recommend sitting your fiancé down when he's in a calm state of mind and telling him that if you don't get the addresses by whatever date then you're either going to have to reach out to your FMIL/ contact his friends and family directly or the wedding won't be happening. Marriage is a partnership, and it's not fair for you to have to shoulder everything.
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