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Fiancé not coming at end of bridal shower?

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Anna, on May 23, 2019 at 10:16 AM

So it may be a regional thing but all my cousins and friends showers I’ve gone to the groom always shows up at the end with flowers for the bride to be. Honestly this one tradition was the only thing I was looking forward to at my own shower, but now he probably isn’t going to be able to because he has to work! He has a new job and can’t really request off and I’m crushed.

Has anyone had their fiancé not show up at the end of the bridal shower? How did it go and how did you feel about it?

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Furture Mrs. G · on May 23, 2019 at 2:56 PM
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Interesting....I have never heard of this. I am in Texas I don't think it's very common here... But, it does sound like a beautiful idea. However, don't be too upset. This is your day and about you. You have a lifetime to receive flowers from him
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Cristy · on May 23, 2019 at 3:42 PM
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Love this!!! It's exactly what I was thinking!!!
btw, I've never seen nor heard of this tradition. Must be a regional or cultural thing, but it's really sweet!!! I'm trying to figure out how to inform FH that this is a thing he should do for me!! lol
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Anna · on May 23, 2019 at 3:49 PM
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It’s not so much about the flowers but about the tradition behind it. I appreciate your input
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Courtney · on May 23, 2019 at 4:06 PM
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I'm sorry he won't be able to make it. Hopefully he sends a gift to you with a friend or family member.
But it's not very common here in MD. If guys do show up, it's at the end to help pack up cars.
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Anna · on May 23, 2019 at 4:07 PM
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Honestly it’s not about the flowers, it’s about him being there and emotionally supporting me.
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Lauren · on May 23, 2019 at 4:12 PM
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You could start with "I read about a tradition on the forums today..." That's how I start every story after finding this website. He said to me a few days ago, "You talking about the forums to me is how you must feel when I talk about cars." Haha
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MrsD · on May 23, 2019 at 4:35 PM
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My fiance was at his bachelor party in San Diego during my shower, so he wasn't able to do it! It was totally fine, and not a big deal at all.
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Judith · on May 23, 2019 at 10:06 PM
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Mine didn't. I go to a lot of showers, and give a fair number. It is pretty rare to see the FI at all. When I lived north of Boston, they frequently did come at the end. Two of my 4 small showers, the hostesses asked if I wanted them to invite him, to the shower, or at the end. I pretty much said, what for?
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Madison · on May 24, 2019 at 12:20 AM
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I have never heard of this! I have never been to one where the groom shows up at all. We are not planning to have my FH do anything. Just a fun day for all the girls
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thisismrsb · on May 24, 2019 at 12:48 AM
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It's not a regional or cultural thing that I've ever heard of! I'm pretty sure that my cousin's husband didn't show up at her bridal shower. They lived in NYC at the time and the shower was held at my dad's sister's house in Massachusetts. (My cousin is from my mom's side of the family.)
My FH didn't even know that he was expected to come to mine at all until I asked him about it. He works on the weekends, so I basically took care of his plans for him. I called up one of my brothers and asked him to take FH out to lunch or something and bring him to the party at the end. LOL! My brother got in touch with FH and set it up. My two brothers, my cousin's boyfriend and my dad helped set up the party and then took FH out to lunch. (I think his dad was there too, but I'm not sure about his brother.) They had a great time and then they joined us for the second half of the party.
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