Fiancé straying..

Cheating husbands are very dangerous!

My cousin died last year because of an STD she got from her husband! He puts you in danger every time he cheats.

As others mentioned, just because you have not caught him having sex with someone else does not mean he has not done it yet. RUN!

I honestly know what you are going through. Its so hard - your life was just shattered. But honestly that doesn't mean you should roll in the shards. You 100% need to postpone this wedding - which is awful. But you need yo figure out if you can marry this man - if you can trust him - or if you even want to trust him.

You need to postpone the wedding at the very least. I hope things work out the way you'd like them to. Just keep in mind that he has shown his true colors. You should be more in love now than ever before and this is when he's acted out.

Best of luck xx

Just because he hasn't "physically" cheated (which I have a hard time believing) doesn't mean he didn't cheat. He cheated on you emotionally, at one point or another his loyalty was not to you and he was willing to put his needs before the relationship between you and him. The intent to cheat was there. This isn't something that you should just push to the side, and he shouldn't get a slap on the wrist for it either. It's obvious he can't commit and it would be best to either call the whole thing off, or at the very least postpone everything and get into some counseling.

Lots of good thoughts and hugs to get you through this trying time.m

Sorry to hear but I would cancel or postpone until later date. Mostly cancel and go separate ways.

This is not a decision to make quickly. Postpone the wedding and give yourself some time to think. At the very least, everyone deserves to marry someone who will be loyal to them and love them.

I am so so sorry. This is terrible! I had a similar situation with an ex fiance and I found out 3 months before but he actually DID cheat. It was a quick goodbye for me! It's hard and it sucks... but trust me it'll be less heartache then him misbehaving after the fact!

And I've always been told things don't magically get better after a wedding...they continue the way they have been or get worse in some cases.

Oh, honey. Please walk away. Marry a man that can be a role model for your future sons, and show your daughters what husband should be. Would you want a sister or a dear friend to stay with someone who doesn't love and respect them enough to stay faithful? You deserve better. He's not the one, at least not right now.

If he isn't content with just you now, he certainly won't be later when there are kids taking up your time and energy.

So sorry to hear. Trust is very important

OP can you update us about how counseling went?

Hi Ashley - You have a whole community of women offering their support! Thinking about you!

Man this is rough but you need to postpone the wedding or cancel. This is not okay. Posting for sex is dangerous not only for him but what he could pass to you. I had a smilar situation with my ex-fiancee not current. I went through another 1 year of counseling and everything to work it out. Didnt happen. He continued to engage in online flirting and sexting. It was a game of flattery for him but he did cheat on me twice. I also contracted HPV that took years to get ride of. The tipping point was when i contact onenof the girls and she was the one that told me her had HPV and her was bad and in danger of turning into cervical cancer. Please don't put yourself in this situation. If someone shows you who they are accept it. If he is doing this so close to such celebratory time why wouldnt he do this when times are hard?

Here's how I think of it, is this really a man you want your kids to look up to? Is this a kind of man you want your son to be or your daughter to marry?

I wouldn't! I don't see his morals being a good role model for any kind of future.

So sorry.

Don't do it!!!

No no no

I would leave town, alone, to think.

The intent was definitely there.

You can marry him if your okay with being lied to and cheated on for the rest of your life!

You need to talk to him and figure out what is going on. You do not want to marry him until this is all sorted out.