Fiancé straying..

HELL NO! Seriously hell no. You deserve better point blank

I wish someone could message her MOH or even her mom to let them know what Ashley posted about her POS fiance. They could support her IRL. The marriage is so much more important than the wedding on Saturday...ugh!

So I have read everything on this and told my FH and he was appalled at this guy.. but he had a question that I couldn't answer... He was curious how she found out about the Craigslist Ad... did I miss that answer... I know it doesn't matter and I hope she doesn't marry this slimeball.. but my Fh has asked a few times when he sees me reading this thread.

I also told him if he ever did something like that... he would not be able to receive a bj.

Update?

Dianna - how about his best man? A little punch to the gut might help

I used my super internet stalking skills. Found her Facebook as well as her FH's. Wedding is absolutely still on.

I'm so incredibly sorry this has happened to you.

Honestly, the same thing happened to a friend of mine, and she went through with the (very expensive) wedding. They were divorced within 6 months.

Personally, I'd leave and never look back, but if you don't want to do that, my advice is to at least push the wedding back until you've had the opportunity to try and work things out.

Trust is a very difficult thing to earn back after it's been lost. You don't deserve this, and you aren't obligated to marry someone who's done something like this to you. Best of luck to you, love.

Oh wow, really abegaile? I was hoping for an update (been thinking about her a lot since this was first posted- knowing the wedding is this weekend.) I can't imagine.

Oh hell no.

I would say no. I was in a relationship for 5 years and he was texting and talking to a few girls throughput the years. Not even sure if he cheated or what. I always forgave him and he always did it again. Men never change. I was a fool for believing he would.

Hell no! Get out!!

First and foremost I have to tell you how very sorry I am for your situation. Secondly ask him and yourself what would he do if the shoe were on the other foot? Next I wonder if you and your FH are religious at all and if you did premarital counseling. If you did I'd require you both run to that person immediately and come up with a plan to rebuild trust because it's clear you intend on staying. No judgment. None of us understand or know all of the details. I have been in a similar situation as most have I'm sure. I required my then fiance to attend counseling, give me the passwords to all social media and email accounts even work and the password to his phone. He initially agreed but did none of it. I told him he had to set up the counseling as well. Needless to say we ended things and the wedding was called off. Thankfully I was 3 months out and it was the best decision ever! I now have the man God created just for me and I couldn't be happier. You are worried about everything and everyone else's feelings I'm sure. And what people will say or think if you decide to postpone. But the people who love you will be super supportive. I can guarantee you! And I would make telling folks about the postponement your FHs responsibility. He needs consequences. Real ones real fast! Whatever you decide I'll be praying for your strength, healing and peace. You are wonderfully and fearfully made with a beauty that transcends 'Almost Infidelity'. I need you to believe that and not blame yourself for his actions. You are not the one with the issue. And you have done absolutely nothing wrong but love a little to hard and trust a little too much. So pull up the big girl panties and know you have folks who support you. Yes even a perfect stranger like me

The most important thing here, Ashley is that you stay true to yourself and hold onto your self respect. If you feel totally uncomfortable cancelling, at least postpone and then give yourself some time to think about what you REALLY want and try to talk to him and get professional help if that's the direction you choose. None of us can make that choice for you, but it's also not fair to you to just marry him and try to figure it out after, it will be so much harder.

Wedding is still happening..... I feel so sorry for her no one deserves this...

I have a friend who married a woman that I became very close with. He travels for work and she found out that he was meeting girls when he was away. She'd find pictures and messages etc. This is while they were dating. She caught it a few times and each time he promised to stop. They got engaged. To the best of her knowledge it wasn't happening during that time but he may have just hidden it better. They got married and literally about 3-4 weeks into their marriage she finds out he's doing it again (or still probably). Crushed her world. And what now? They're married and she has to deal with it. He won't go to counseling. He says he's done for good now. She said she wouldn't have married him if she knew he was still doing it. Sounds like a very similar situation. Think long and hard about those choices. A cancelled wedding people will get over.

Well we know how this will end...

Did she ever update how the counseling went with the priest?

In sorry but I don't feel sorry for anyone going through with a wedding after knowing what they know. If she married him anyways I think it's unfortunate that she has so little self esteem to not know she deserves better, but he's shown who he is. Marrying someone like that implies you're ok with it. So all anyone can do is hope for the best.

He probably lied to the priest!

Any updates? I've been wondering all weekend long.....