Fiancé straying..

I'm so sorry this has happened to you; just awful! I wouldn't marry him... he'll do something next time. Good luck and I hope everything works out for you!

Bye Felicia!

I'd postpone the wedding so you can have *many* long good talks with him ( and maybe with a counselor). I know some people might scroll through Tinder or flirt, etc even if they are committed to their SO and have absolutely no intention of going through with anything; but actually meeting up with people and putting ads is a whole different beast and raises lots of red flags that need to be addressed before you decide to tie yourselves together. It'd be a lot messier if this happened more after the wedding.

I'm so sorry this is happening to you. Best of luck and lots of hugs.

This sounds like an awful situation to be in, so sorry you are dealing with this. I would at least postpone the wedding. Nine days is not time at all to attempt to work through this issue, or even make the decision on whether or not you want to work through this in counseling.

Unfortunately not a joke. And easy for everyone to say leave because I would tell everyone the same thing. Thanks for the advice gals. I still believe he's he one for me, but I need to think long and hard. (I'm not going into how I know nothing happened, I just know for a fact that it didn't). Thanks

I'd cancel the wedding, get some answers, and breaking off the engagement/leaving him would be soon to follow.

I am so sorry this is happening to you. You deserve so much better.

Absolutely not. The wedding would be over and he'd be gone if I were you. Don't marry him!!

First, I'm so sorry this is happening. Second, If he's been hiding this from you and you're 9 days from your wedding there's no way I'd trust he hasn't gotten physical with someone else. If it were me I'd run, fast. How can you really trust him?

We're this me, there'd be a clear, honest, and difficult conversation going on. "Nothing came of it," but one puts up an ad like that in the hopes something will. My advice is to (at least) push back the wedding and get immediate counseling.

If you feel like this is a complete deal breaker (and it would be for me), then break it off and run in the other direction! Breaking it off ahead of time is much easier than a divorce later - or living a miserable, untrusting life.

I would push pause on the wedding. This is not how you should start of your marriage.

How do you feel? Clearly this has impacted your views of him. With this information you found out about, do you really think he will change his ways in 6 days. Maybe you two will move past this, but I honestly think you should rethink this leap and hold off on saying vow in six days.

He'd be gone.

I know this is hard to hear. This just out rights sucks. He sucks.

But it will only get worse not better. I know you are invested and close to the wedding and its so hard to cancel. But you deserve someone who respects you and values you.

What if he got a STD by fooling around on Craigslist?

Even if you believe he's the one for you, you need to, at minimum, postpone the wedding. If nothing happened, he had even intention of wanting something to happen. These two occasions, nothing may have happened, but there could be other times you don't know about that things could have went down.

Also, if he put up an add for a BJ, who knows what else he's done. Id get myself checked honestly. And thats not to sound rude.

He is not the one for you. If he was, you would be enough. I know it's easier for us to tell you but you honestly had no expectation we'd tell you to stay. I'd bet money he has gone farther than he claims. The fact that he won't admit it is questionable as well

Huh? He's the one for you? Sounds to me you already know you will be staying with him.

Not trying to offend but I know you say you know he didn't do anything...but it doesn't hurt to get tested...

Those are things you know about. Do you know for a fact he never physically cheated? The intent was there.

Cut your losses and get out now. He will do it again.

It's heartbreaking (I've been there). You will be much more miserable not knowing and feeling insecure for the rest of your marriage. It will be harder to leave once you're legally tied together.

You say he's the one for you, but I must ask why you would settle for such an ass? You obviously are not the one for him or he wouldn't be looking online for BJs. I'd bet he's already cheated and cheated and cheated on you.

How is he "the one for you"?!?

My mind would be going crazy!!!! Someone who is right for you wouldn't do something like that! Don't be blindsided by his intent.

This may sound harsh but I'm going to channel Dr Laura for a moment.

If you decide to marry him anyway you are accepting how he is. And you don't get to complain when he does it again and again.

He has shown you who he is. If you stay. Put up and shut up because you chose this life.

I do hope you reconsider marrying him. It won't end well and you could save yourself a lot of pain. Good luck