Fiancé straying..

Nothing came out of it that he told you about. I'm guessing he didn't tell you about the craigslist ad or anything else. You either found it or someone else did. He sounds like a liar and a cheater and I sure as hell wouldn't be believe him when he says nothing happened.

Ashley,

I am so sorry! Four years ago I had to make a similar choice and I walked the hell away a few months before our wedding. He did not cheat, but was physically aggressive with me. I've always been taught to never put up with abuse or infidelity. I was so embarrassed and mortified and hurt. I still loved him the day I left, but I am sooooo glad I did.

Even if I never met my FH who I am marrying now, I was so much happier being alone than I was being with someone who did not respect me.

It sucks and it is nothing I would ever wish upon anyone, but if you leave just know that you will survive.

Please don't marry this man.

I feel so bad for you. Yes him actively looking to cheat is horrible but the fact that you thik he is the one makes me sad for you. That tells me you have no self worth. No one...I mean NO ONE deserves to be cheated on. He IS NOT the one for you if he is trying to cheat.

Please postpone the wedding at the very least and get some consoluing for yourself.

Thanks everyone. I think I'm still in shock and pain right now. It's a lot to cancel a wedding, and leave your significant other all at once.

Whether or not anything happened...what he did to you was still completly wrong...and literally days before your wedding. i'm so sorry! But i agree with many pp's. you should highly consider at least postponing your wedding if not calling it off all together. otherwise if you do get married, it will be even harder and waaay more expensive to get out with a divorce. good luck, and remember you don't deserve someone who will do this to you...ever.

Ashley... You could get STD's from this guy and I'm not talking about the cutesy little things you mail to family and friends announcing your wedding date. He obviously has no respect for you or your relationship. Divorces are painful and expensive. So are STD's from what I've heard in sex ed! Please, love yourself more than him right now and GTFO of there.

Ashley it's much easier than living in doubt and being disrespected. Heck he is even putting your physical health in danger

If he hasn't already, it's a matter of time... and the intention is there. Cut your loses and move on

The price of your emotional well-being vs. wedding will be worth postponing for. Very very hard to untangle this mess after marriage, especially if you end up having a home/children/etc with this person, and would be more expensive. Good luck.

It is certainly a shock and it will take time for things to even just settle for yourself. This AND working out with your fiance won't sort out in just over a week. Take it slow.

It is a lot, but that doesn't make it wrong to do. These are huge red flags. Even if you're not ready to write off the whole relationship right now (and I suspect you will be once you have time to process it), at least cancel the wedding. Even if it's true that nothing physical happened, there was a huge betrayal, and I wouldn't be able to get past that. You definitely shouldn't feel rushed into making the biggest commitment of your life to someone you can't trust just because you have a wedding planned in 9 days. You owe it to yourself to...at the very least...postpone the wedding.

I'm sorry, this cannot be easy. I would leave him. Not worth the trouble and outright disrespect. You deserve better.

Whoa. I'd call it off if it were me ASAP. You deserve to be in a loving, faithful relationship! *hugs*

No no no no no! You have to get this resolved in some fashion before you decide to go through with this commitment. I'm going to disagree with many and say that marrying him isn't absolutely out of the question EVER, but you guys need to go through some intense counseling to put this to rest before you potentially make an expensive mistake.

That would be a hard no from me.

Maybe I am wrong, but I would be willing to bet that while you are shocked and hurt, this is probably not 100% out of character for him. You were probably surprised but maybe there was a tiny part of you that knew something like this might happen someday. And now I it did, and the timing isn't great but honestly it's better that it happened now than after you are already married. Consider post-poning and have extensive conversations about what the fuck happened there and more importantly, WHY.

Coming from a guy....run.

Never. Trust is a deal breaker for me

Even a mod said to cancel it, so you have to listen. Or you're gonna get a strike. (Use your powers for good, WWLaura!!!!)

Gawd no. Kick his cheating ass to the curb next to the dumpsters with the rest of the trash.