Fiancé straying..

Please don't marry this man. You don't need to justify reasons for canceling to anyone either, that's nobody's business but your own. Yes, you love him. But I hope you are able to love yourself enough to let him go. Best of luck OP.

Leave him. Calling off a wedding is easier than getting a divorce. Consider this a blessing in disguise that you found out before your wedding. And I would edit your post to allow vendors to comment. Centerpiece and Celia always give great advice but they can't weigh in if they aren't allowed to post on here.

@Ashley, I'm sincerely sorry this has happened to you and you have every right to be in shock and in pain right now. I think you should take the rest of today and be by yourself, think long and hard. Is this a marriage you are willing to enter? A husband is supposed to protect his wife from any hurt or pain. You will do what you think is right regardless of what we say, I will say a prayer for you. Sending you a big hug Ashley

Wow I'm really sorry that happened. I'm not sure how you'll ever get to a place to trust him again? Is trust not important to you? It would be really heard to get back if it were me.

Please get tested for STD's in order to protect yourself.

I wouldn't postpone the wedding, I would cancel the wedding forever. It doesn't matter if nothing happened, the intent was there. You deserve way better than that, and you don't want to waste anymore time on him. I know your wedding is in 9 days and it would absolutely suck after so much time planning (and $&dollar and excitement. But you will save yourself further heartbreak and a potentially disastrous divorce. Trust is the number one important thing in a relationship, and it sounds like he can't be trusted. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. All of us on this form are behind you

Girl- say goodbye while you are still ahead. If it's happening now it'll happen (maybe actually follow though) in the future. You don't deserve this. No one does.

@Heather, that is uncalled for and a pretty immature way to handle the situation.

Ashley you really need to postpone the wedding. This is your health and your happiness. I would bet you know only half the truth. I'm so sorry this is happening to you. It's horrible and I know you want and deserve better.

I'm so sorry this happened to you. What an absolute nightmare. As pretty much every PP has said, you should probably call off the wedding. I know this is a lot easier said than done, you will be out money, and be embarrassed, but how much more embarrassing to know you're marrying a man who doesn't give you the respect you deserve? This was premeditated. He thought about posting on Craigslist and decided it was a good idea and went through with it! That is a lot. Not that I would forgive my partner for falling into someone's arms unplanned, but somehow this seems worse. I know it's close to your wedding, but you would be doing yourself a disservice by marrying this man. As others say, he will think this means he can get away with this type of behavior! And he should not be able to get away with it at all. Finally, just because no one took him up on the wonderful opportunity to give a stranger oral sex, doesn't mean he wouldn't have done it if some fool had agreed, so I don't think he should get points for that.

Fwiw, I read your post to my SO, and he said that if your FI hasn't been unfaithful physically yet he will soon.

Definitely wouldn't marry him! And I'd probably get a full STD screening done, honestly. Just because you haven't caught him doesn't mean he hasn't cheated.

I'm really sorry you're going through this, but it's better you know before the wedding right?

ETA: Sorry, just read your comment that you KNOW nothing happened. No testing needed then, I suppose!

@ Heather, that comment makes you sound like you need to grow up.

Yikes, postpone the wedding. Nothing like an unfaithful partner.

I'm really sorry. But just because nothing has happened yet, doesn't mean nothing will. Please do not get married in nine days.

It may not be the answer you want to hear, but No, I would not marry him. You are starting a future and he is already showing signs of unfaithfulness. What happens down the line when things between a marriage become routine like? What happens if you fall ill?

If you do stay, seek counseling.

Best of luck.

Oh man!! I am so sorry. Honestly I would not marry him at least not in 9 days. You either need to end it or at the very least postpone. Also and i don't know if someone mentioned this I didn't read thru the comments but the whole Craig'slist thing. Ummm that's scary. You have no idea who he has or would mess around with. I would definitely take a trip to the doctor just in case for your safety, I'm so sorry this is happening.

If you can't leave then you need to postpone and get counseling. Does he know you know?

Just because it wasn't physical doesn't mean he didn't cheat.

He cheated on you. At the very least the wedding needs to be cancelled and he had better be more transparent than a window if there's any salvaging the relationship.

I wouldn't marry him. You should cancel the wedding. If you want to work it out, go to counseling. If not, get on with your life.

I'm very sorry this happened to you. :/

I'm so sorry this is happening! If it were me, I would dump him, take my BFF and go on our honeymoon and forget about him slowly over wine and margs!