Fiancé straying..

Girl no. He put an advertisement out for oral sex. From a stranger!

I know it's easy for us to say to cancel, and it must feel so overwhelming and embarrassing at this point, but think of how much worse you'll feel getting divorced in three months?

At the very least postpone. Do you have somewhere you can go tonight? Is your family close? Enlist their help. They'd rather see you lose (or lose themselves) thousands of dollars than watch you bind yourself to a man like that.

Please don't marry him in nine days. Would you let any of your friends marry someone like this?

That's a big fat no!! Run away as fast and as far as you can. If you marry this guy, you will seriously regret it. I see this ending in a nasty divorce. You will never, ever, ever trust him again and this is coming from experience. Thank god I didn't marry that one!! I'm sorry , and it sucks, but please take the advice and cancel the wedding. Bad, bad idea.

I'm so sorry that you have to go through that... And I hate to say it, but it only gets worse from there from what I have seen. I had a somewhat similar experience with my ex, except it was finding out about a lot of finance stuff he hid. If he can lie and hide something so serious now, what stops him from hiding something bigger? Not to mention the lack of respect that shows for you.

Canceling a wedding and leaving your SO is nothing compared to going through a divorce. If you don't want to leave right away, go through counseling. If he refuses, leave him for good and never look back. Someone can't be the one for you if you aren't the one for them.

I would at least post pone the wedding and then figure it out from there

I'm so sorry that he is putting you through this. I would not marry this boy, he has a lot of growing up and learning to do. Be happy that you learned this before you got married. Again, I'm so sorry you have to go through this.

So sorry this is happening have you talked to him ?

No!!!!

Thinking, looking....one thing. Unless this is something you two agreed to previously (open life style).... he'll repeatedly disrespect and dishonor you.

Can you honestly stand up in front of dozens of your closest friends and family and promise your life to this man? Take a minute to run through your vows. Can you really vow yourself to this man? And then throw a huge party to celebrate this event. People will come up to you all night and tell you how great he is and how perfect you are together...

As hard as it would be to cancel, I would completely understand as a guest. I would be devastated for you, but I would get it. You may lose all of your deposits, but you will lose years of your life if you marry this man.

Besides...canceling a wedding is ALOT less expensive than a divorce

Ashley I'm sorry this is happening to you. You're right it easy for us to tell you to leave bc its not happening to us.

But let me tell you a story. My cousin found out 5 months before her wedding her husband got his ex gf pregnant, he cried begged her to say he was very remorseful did the counseling, she went through with the wedding bc everything was paid for they've been together 7 years prior and she believed he was the one. They got married and 2 years later he got the same girl pregnant again!!!!

She regrets every day not canceling the wedding bc she also had a baby with him and he's in her life for good now even though they've since divorced.

Even if you can forgive him and give him another chance can you do it in 6 days? probably not. Can you really say those vows without anger or hurt in your heart in 6 days? Can you listen to him say those vows and believe him in 6 days?

Absolutely not. Who puts up a Craigslist ad for a bj?

He doesn't respect you. Canceling is cheaper than divorce

I am so sorry you are going through this. Sending you hugs.

Now that you have this info and you know that he has been straying how will you ever get it out of your mind? Every time you go away, every time he says he has to work late, every time he's with the guys you will lie in bed at night and wonder who/what he is doing. This will destroy you slowly day by day. No one should go through this.

Excuse me but F&&k NO!! Marriage is OFF

Run away as quickly as possible. Easier said than done I'm sure but that is disrespectful to you and you deserve better than that!

Oh my goodness - I'm so sorry! How awful this must be for you. I'd say to definitely call off wedding - he's not respecting you and that is the #1 component in a successful marriage. I'm really so, so sorry.

Also, Ashley, I am wearing my public health hat here when I beg you to get tested. You have no idea what he might have already done. Protect yourself, find out what you can now. My heart breaks for you and I hope you find some peace after this. You're worth more and deserve better.

Helllllll no! That's outta control. I would not be marrying him still! That is truly terrible. I'm sorry that's happening to you. I would say that yes perhaps you should cancel it. Anyone who posts an ad for a BJ is just unacceptable especially when you plan to spend the rest of your life with them!

I would not marry him. U deserve better

Oh, honey... no.