Fiancé wanting strippers

I get how you feel, I wouldn’t want that either. It is concerning that he is responding to your genuine feelings with sarcasm and not taking them seriously- I think that’s a bigger issue than having a stripper (although your feelings on that are absolutely valid). I think maybe sit down and say as calmly as possible that you’re very serious about not wanting any strippers involved and if he doesn’t respect that, that’s a HUGE red flag.

Oh wow. That’s not a good way to start a marriage. There is no reason he can’t respect your wishes because respect is a two way street. That is very alarming that he is being dismissive of your concerns and feelings in general. He does have control over whether strippers are included or not by talking to the hosts of the bachelor party (never the groom or bride in the case of a bachelorette). If you feel uncomfortable and unheard, I would hold off on wedding planning until you can get some couples therapy or mediation of some kind. It’s normal to have disagreements but this is well beyond that because he isn’t taking responsibility for his hurtful comments toward you. Best of luck.

I would strongly consider some premarital couples counseling. Him being that dismissive when you are upset isn't a great way to start a marriage. It may greatly help your communication.

Oh, man! I would definitely have a talk with him. Even his guys too.. You have to be able to communicate effectively with your FH now because you'll just keep bottling your emotions up and that's not good. If it is a big boundary that he is about to break in your book then you need to stand your ground and tell him that the wedding will be off if he goes through with it.

My husband definitely didn't want strippers at his bachelor party. Instead he just wanted to get away with his guys to go riding and fishing. His friends respected that which was good. I didn't want strippers either. Instead my girls surprised me to the Magic Mike show in Vegas. They let my husband know about it and he was totally cool with it.

I don’t blame you at all. I would not want strippers at my fiancé’s bachelor party and this would be a deal breaker. I’ve heard some crazy stories about what truly goes on at some of these parties.
We will be having a night out together with our close friends like a combined Jack and Jill bachelorette/ bachelor party.

It's not great that he's dismissing your feelings. Somewhat of a red flag there. Might be worth getting some help with your communication.

I understand the fear you have with the strippers. I personally am having them at my bachelorette party and would love for my fiancé to have them too but he’s not that type of person. But something to consider is if you’ve never had any trust issues with him before then you shouldn’t have any for his bachelor night. But I do agree if everyone else. You two should most def have a heart to heart and sometimes a mediator will help.