My fiancé and I are having two weddings, one in India and one in the US. I am Hindu, he is Jewish. We have a lot of older relatives in the India who are unable to travel so we are having an Indian option. My family is obviously coming to both weddings. My fiancé’s family thinks that India is too much of a trip and is not coming to that one but will be at the February one. The grooms family plays an important role in weddings so we will have to hire someone to step in.
Is it bad that I’m annoyed that they are making no effort to come? I understand that they have the February wedding but they are totally skipping out on the Hindu ceremony whereas my parents are going to be participating in the Jewish ceremony. They have made some remarks about getting married “with a turban” and how it’s not real. His parents are also the same age as mine and they are making the trip easily. His sister is 38 but doesn’t think they will be able to travel with two kids (which plenty of people do, I went back and forth from India constantly as a kid and my friends are going to India with their 6 month old infants).
I know it’s a lot to ask people to come to two weddings, but I would travel to the ends of the world for my brother. I also feel like they are totally disregarding my religion but expect me to be a full participant in theirs. Am I being bratty and unreasonable here?