My fiancé has a HUGE extended family about 50 people only including parents, siblings, grandparents, aunts, uncles, cousins.
I have a very small extended family. Most of whom I’m not close with either. IF they came I’d have 17. I’ll probably have less. Maybe 10.
He really wants his family to be at our wedding. Which I kind of don’t understand because my extended family has always been people I don’t really love being around. To add to the complications, we are a LDR couple. He’s from a small town and knows everyone and feels bad not inviting people. But I don’t want something that feels like his family reunion with a wedding also. Idk. My solution was a destination wedding, to make it more intimate and less people would show anyway. But then his grandparents won’t come (refuse to fly and won’t drive far either). And he REALLY wants them to be there. I’m thinking I should just let him have his way. He’s not trying to be selfish, I know. But I really want it to be special and beautiful and intimate. He wants me to have my dream wedding, but my dream wedding doesn’t involve extended relatives and people we’re inviting out of obligation because they invited us to their wedding. I don’t even have friends. If we have it where he lives, or even within a couple hours, we’ll likely have 100+ guests on his side and less than 25 for me. It feels awful. Advice appreciated!