Fiancés sister

The answer is no. You don’t need to have her as your BM.

I chose to have her as a bridesmaid because my fh wanted her to be in the wedding. I know it’s not required but we have grown much closer in the process.

Her being my fiancé’s sister to clarify

You don't have to. I'm not having either my my fiancee's surviving sisters. They haven't been to nice to him over the years so I don't think they deserve to stand up with us. His daughter was supposed to be a bridesmaid even though I barely know her, but she's been behaving like a spoiled brat so neither he nor I plan on her even being there.

Nope. If he wants her in the wedding he can have her on his side. That’s what my husband did.

Nope, you shouldn't have anyone in your bridal party that you do not want to be there.

Nope, your bridal party is your nearest and dearest, doesn't sound like she meets that criteria. If your FS was that close then he would have asked her to be a groomswoman. If sides were uneven, you'd just have a group of three to walk down the aisle (not weird, totally normal)

Nope......

Nope you don't have to maybe you can have her do a reading

I have a similar problem, she kinda put herself in the BM spot. But, she is not going to. FH and I discussed it. It’s your party, you choose who you want.

Nope, but if your fiancé wants her in she could be a groomswoman.

Not at all. I am not having my fiancé’s sister in the wedding and my fiancé was completely ok with it

I know it feels strange, but as a courtesy to your new husband...they both will appreciate it later.

Not at all. If you don't want her in there, don't have her in there. Neither my step sister or my sister in law were a part of my wedding beyond being a guest.

I choose to have both of my fiancé’s sisters as bridesmaids but that is purely because we have all become very close since he and I started dating. You need to do what you are comfortable with and if that’s nit to have her than that is ok.

Nope you definitely don’t have to! I asked the same question when I started to think about the bridal party, my FH has 3 sisters. Every wedding I’ve ever been to, all siblings were in the party. Thanks to WW made me realize it isn’t necessary so I am only having my current SIL (brothers wife) as my MOH, and that’s all I want.

Nope. Your bridal party should be your near and dear.

I didn't make my SIL and we talk a lot.

View Quoted Comment I understand! FH has a monster for a sister, we went with NO bridal party to avoid it.

View Quoted Comment This is often an unfulfilled wish. Many times, when a bride has someone she really does not know or want, though the person is nice, it ends with long term hurt feelings, or resentment and dislike. She will sense you are closer to the others, and will either have hurt feelings over not feeling wanted, as though foisted on you, or will try to get you attention by competing with the others. Don't set up a potentially dysfunctional situation. He wants her in the wedding, choose a role where she will not compete with his or your long term friends. There is no obligation to choose your own or FI family for the wedding party. Family is an important role in and of itself.

That's good advice!