First Comes Love Then Comes Marriage Then Comes The Baby Carriage... Right?

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. Congratulations on your future marriage! Do you have any suggestions for balancing time together after kids?

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. My husband and I were together for 7 years before getting married but we still feel like things are different now that we are married and we want to hold fast to every moment. Lol, why don't you two want to go to your brothers destination wedding?

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. God willing we can plan our pregnancy down to the second.

My FH and I are getting married September 2020, we'll be 24 (him) and 22 (me). We're talking about not having kids until like 30. For each couple, it's a different story. Some have kids before marriage, some dont at all. It's all about when you're comfortable and ready.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. Congrats on your upcoming wedding. For me the ideal time to have kids would be between 30 and 32 so we can wait 2-4 years before having kids.

View Quoted Comment To be honest we’re not big fans of his bride to be. She can be quite selfish and manipulative.

But their wedding is going to be in a backwoods mountain lodge where the nearest town (and hotel) is over an hour away.

View Quoted Comment Within reason, we make a date night a priority. Our parents usually watch the kids for us of they do not have plans that night. But we have plenty of weekends where its family time with us and our kids. And my favorite date nights are when the kids go to bed and we watch movies or our favorite shows on the couch.

There's really no right or wrong in this.
I've had people tell me "you're still young, take time to enjoy being married and travellots!" But I'm turning 29 in a few months and hubby will be 33 shortly after that. We aren't getting younger and we'd like 3-4 kids. So the sooner the better! Plus we've enjoyed each others company for 3.5 years and lived together for 3 of those years so the only thing marriage has changed in our lives is the legal side.
We're both ready in all aspects to expand our family.

I think it’s 100% based on the couple. My FH and I both want kids but will definitely wait several years both to give us time with just the two of us and also to save money. Kids are expensive!

View Quoted Comment Wow, that's a tough circumstance to be in. I think as his sister being supportive is probably your best bet, even if it's inconvenient.

View Quoted Comment I appreciate you sharing that! I will keep these notes as apart of my "wife weaponry".

View Quoted Comment No problem. You both will know when the time is right. But there's nothing wrong with giving yourselves some time to adjust to married life and having time to yourselves. Making some memories together.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. We are in very similar circumstances except I find the married life to be much more different than the dating life. I feel we're learning each other all over again and it's awesome.

Depends on the couple. My parents waited 5 years before having me. And my husband and I are waiting at least 1 year before seriously talking about it.

I say whenever you feel comfortable and can afford to have a child. Don’t let anyone rush you! We’ve only been married a day, but I’m sure questions about having kids will come up soon. And nah, not now.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. You are the first person to bring up the expenses of having a child. I would love to travel the world more with my husband before putting all of our finances into our children.

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. People we're literally asking us about having kids at the wedding reception. It's so much pressure!

View Quoted Comment My older sister once asked my dad how much kids cost and he said there’s no time you really “afford” to have kids, you just adjust but he said roughly $100,000.00 per kid

View Quoted Comment Then wait! Don't listen to anyone else or let anyone else try to pressure you. Only you and your husband can decide when its right.

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We've honestly tried, but she has constantly taken advantage of my parents' kindness over the last few years. She's even made mention of not wanting to come to our wedding because she doesn't want to be away from her dogs for too long. They live 10 minutes away from the venue....

View Quoted Comment Wiser words have never been spoken.