First Comes Love Then Comes Marriage Then Comes The Baby Carriage... Right?

View Quoted Comment I wanted to say I felt this response in my bones it was so good. Excellent words Judith!

It depends on the couple. My brother and his wife had their first before their second anniversary while my fiance and I plan on waiting till after three to try for medical reasons as well as personal goals. It really depends on what you two want and what works for you

For me and my fh we will be together for 10 years right before our wedding we planning on starting right away. As he will be almost 31 and I will be 28 and after losing our nephew has made us realize that life is to short just to wait. Also we are gonna blessing from both our parents that they want more grandkids

There is no right or wrong time. It’s your life together, you create your own timeline, don’t let others determine when is right or wrong for you 😁

I don't think this is anyone's business but yours. I always planned on taking some time to just enjoy being married myself. I've caught some comments here and there and I simply respond with "I think that's a decision for me and FH to make down the road" It might be a little snotty but too many people deal with too many struggles and questions like that can be so hurtful.

We will probably start trying after about 9 months of marriage. We both want kids and FH is a little older so I don't want him to be too old raising kids haha. I'm also paranoid about not being able to get pregnant (for no particular reason) so I'd rather start sooner rather than later. I feel like we've gotten to enjoy the "just us" phase and having kids will only enhance our lives!

I think every couple is different and no one can make this determination but you. For us, financial stability & age & a completely renovated home & health are all important to us for children. So we will be married in July 2019, and probably start trying in late 2020. But that is because of our personal lives and what is best for us.

I can't imagine most people are financially prepared to have children right after marriage. At this stage in my life, I don't understand how anyone can afford to have children. Just something to take into consideration.

This is really couple dependent. I think that the longer you're together, and the longer you've lived together, the less time you might need to get to know each other. At the same time, it's great to just having bonding time to experience the moment before jumping into anything else.

My husband and I want about a year as 'married' before we have kids. But, considering everyone considers us being married about 3 years, it really doesn't feel like it's a necessity. We are planning to wait. But if we have an 'oops' moment, we're also not stressed about it. What will happen will happen.

I’m waiting until it happens. I’m on BC and it doesn’t have to be removed until 2020... we will see what happens then. Everyone is really ready for kids to happen for others but forget that they won’t be the ones caring for those little ones.

It really depends on the couple. We ultimately decided on NO children. The dog is enough for us!

In direct response to your question, I think the couple should wait however long they want before they have children, if they want them at all. My girlfriend and her fiancé want to jump right into having children after they get married, whereas my H and I still haven't decided if we want them and we have several other things that need to be done before we could even consider bringing a child into the world. Yet, here I was a few months after my wedding fielding uncomfortable questions from my grandmother.

If you two want to wait until you're married for 2 years, then do it! My H and I are still just enjoying each other's company and getting adjusted to married life, so I understand where you're coming from!

View Quoted Comment Thank you for your response. We're definitely still getting adjusted to this new life so we'll have wait a little while.

Wait until y’all are ready! No one can tell you when you’re ready to start a family. You and your hubby know what Is best for you guys, and if you have both decided that is when you want to start trying, then do it!

How ever long you feel is right you are and your FH! Everyone is different and going to have opinions. My FH and I have been together for almost 6 years and lived together for 4 other them so once we get married in May of 2020 we are going to start trying on like our honeymoon lol but that is just us. Do whatever is comfortable for you guys

I am dealing with the same thing. My sister was expecting her first child a month after she got married, so now I feel like my parents are expecting the same thing from us, but we're probably going to wait a couple years, and it's not like we don't have any nieces or nephews, we have 12 combined so we can spend time with them.

I think that it really depends on the couple. For my sister and BIL, they wanted to have kids sooner and it was right for them. But FH and I want to wait.

It defiantly depends on the couple.

Totally up to the couple. However as for us, we are starting right away because I’ll be 36 by the time we get married and I don’t want to be pregnant at 40 lol.

I’m getting married this December. We plan to wait to officially try till June 2020(our three year anniversary). He will be 30 and I’ll just be turning 26. So we wait to start sooner rather than later. It depends on the couple and what your ready for. Don’t feel pressured. I’m anxiously awaiting till we can try! Lol

You should absolutely wait until you and your husband are ready. Nobody else besides the two of you will know when is the right time. Enjoy married life as long as you need/want before having children.

Wait as long as you want too!