First Holidays As a Married Couple

I would continue to split it like you said you've done, that's what we're doing for thanksgiving. Then Christmas Eve at my parents and Christmas Day with his fam

Our families and us live in the same city, but we alternate and split holidays. So this year is Thanksgiving and Christmas Eve with his family, Christmas with mine and next year will be flipped. This is what we've done in the past and it worked out and it keeps us from hecticly running around on the holidays.

I don't see why you can't keep doing what you've always been doing! My family does even and odd years with us vs. our in-laws. It works well for everyone, but that's our family. If doing half and half works for you guys, definitely keep doing it! You could even switch which family you start and end the day with each year, unless one family is more dinner heavy and the other is more dessert.

If they live close enough to spend a half day with each family, it seems like you don't have a problem.

If what you have been doing in the past worked. Keep it the same. I don't think it has to change now because you're married. I would only change it if you wanted to start hosting a holiday, if something didn't work with what you already do or when you have kids.

Do what you've always done if that's comfortable and works for you. Why would being married force it to change?

We split the day with both families.

We are splitting like we always do!

We usually split the time - both of our parents are in driving distance but about an hour in opposite directions. it actually gets really exhausting for us so we decided this year we will just go to my parents for a few hours for thanksgiving and then head home and relax with our pup. for christmas, we usually do christmas eve with my parents and christmas day with his.

Oddly enough, his family decided years ago that they were sick of people rushing in and out of Thanksgiving dinner and hold their Thanksgiving dinner on the Saturday after Thanksgiving, so, everyone can attend and not have other obligations to attend. They make 5 course meals and then the full Turkey.

As for Christmas, we spend it apart but currently don't have kids so that will change eventually but right now it works. I drive myself 3 hours away a few days before Christmas and do the return 3 hour trip on Christmas and spend Christmas night together.

We live close to FH's family and my family is all out of town. we just saw everyone for the wedding so I'm not planning to go home for Christmas this year but have made it known I want us to go to my family for Christmas next year.

FH and I have a small get together with my sister, mother and nephew a few days before the actual holiday. Then we spend thanksgiving day, Christmas Day and New Years with his family

We spend thanksgiving at FH's parents house with both our families together. Then we spend Christmas and New Years with my family because his family goes to Mexico for those weeks. We usually go out to dinner before they leave and exchange gifts

We do thanksgiving with one family, and christmas with the other family, and swap each year. So, this year we'll spend thanksgiving with my family and christmas with FH's family, and next year we'll do the opposite. It's worked for us the last 3 years!

In the past we've done the morning/ first half of the day at DH's family's house, then the evening at my family's house, which is an hour away. This year DH requested that we spend the whole day for Thanksgiving with his family...I'm a little nervous about telling my family but hoping they'll understand!

I'm hosting thanksgiving this year since H works thanksgiving day, Christmas we are still working on His mom spends Christmas eve and day with her boyfriends family so we are thinking about moving it to a totally different day, but we see my family and his dad always on Christmas day.

My FH's family always eats earlier in the day, and my family always does a really informal dinner (buffet style, eat when & where you want, etc) so we always split our time.

This year though, our wedding is only a week after Thanksgiving so his family isn't doing anything so... our family it is! And it works out oddly because my relatives decided to meet earlier this year. Weird.

We are all within driving distance, so we usually do half day with one, half day with another.

FH's family lives on the west coast and mine lives on the east coast. We decided to spend thanksgiving with one family and Christmas with the other and switch every year (financial situation depending since flights are involved)

@FutureMrsBorroughs I am so sorry! You are welcome at our home. We'll even kick out any ratty relation who has a word to say about it.