First Holidays As a Married Couple

This year my parents moved to florida. My fh and I are in nj. I couldn't imagine not spending Christmas with my aprents, so they graciously bought a plane ticket for me. Fh unfortunately has to work and isn't able to take off a few days. This was such a struggle of a decision. I originally wanted to spend Christmas here then fly out on the 26th, but it would have cost my parents at least another 100. So I made the decision to spend Christmas without fh

We usually do Thanksgiving with FH uncle (and his family) .. but he's(the uncle ) working this year .. my FH won't travel to either of our mom's 45 mins away almost 2 hours with traffic in NJ. Because .. football ... so I'm having my step mother and my little brothers over .. then off to toys r us at 5 lol Christmas .. his mom , my mom her husband ,my stepmother and brothers come over for brunch .. then we go t9 his uncle's house for dinner

We're still doing things as we always have. This year Thanksgiving day with his family and Christmas day with mine (and we usually make time to see both on other days). Next year will switch (mine for Thanksgiving and his for Christmas). We've been doing this for 3 years now (our first year together, my family had Thanksgiving early because we had family that wouldn't be able to make it day of and I spend that day with his family and his family came over Christmas day and spent time with ours. After that, we started flip flopping the holidays).

We planned our honeymoon to be through Christmas and New Years to avoid family chaos this year. FH's family (divorced and remarried parents) were fighting through us who got to see them first, and we celebrate very small with my family after the holiday, so we chose to just do none this year. It would have been hell since both of his parents want the privilege of us being at their house first as a married couple. It's not pretty.

Likely in the future, it will be FH's mom's first, FH's dad next, and my family third.

I would just keep doing what you've been doing if that works for you!

Husband and I have only been officially married for 22-ish days now, but we have been together for over 7 years and what we have always done is just swap each year. So for instance we will do Thanksgiving with mine this year (however we were on our honeymoon during Thanksgiving this year but I digress), and Christmas with his family this year, and then next year it would be opposite: Thanksgiving with his and Christmas with mine. It's worked great for us with no complaints from our families since they know the deal.