First Holidays as Spouses

We'll be doing the same thing we did when we were dating. We each spend Thanksgiving with our families separate. Christmas is up in the air but New Year's together is a must

I hope we can split the time between both families

We swap holidays with our families. I think he'd rather be alone sometimes, but it's important to visit for me!

Last year we spend thanksgiving and Christmas with his family since we live right down the street from them. This year we are doing thanksgiving and Christmas with my family (I can't take off for thanksgiving to travel to Tennessee to see them so it'll be a week before thanksgiving)

In the past, we've spent all holidays with my family, since they are 5 minutes down the road. His family is In Hawaii until next year, and flying from CA to Hawaii is just too expensive over the holidays. I'm hoping we can do Christmas with them next year, as they'll be back stateside and we can alternate holidays between our families.

We plan on moving in the next 2-3 years to be closer to his family, so I hope we are able to alternate holidays since I'm very close to my family. Time will tell though. This year we'll spend both Thanksgiving and Christmas with my family, but we're traveling to see his family soon.

Our first holidays as a married couple will be next year but we'll do the same thing we've done since we started dating. He goes to his parent's thanksgiving and I go to mine. We do xmas eve dinner with my family (that's when we get the big xmas dinner) and then he goes to his parents to sleep and we have xmas morning with our parents and then go his gmas for xmas dinner. Thankfully, our parents live in the same city so that makes it much easier for us.

We will probably spend it separated (as usual). His family is in TX and we are in NC and mine is all spread out in other states. Depending on how I feel I sometimes cook for my "orphan" friends (military who couldn't get home) on Thanksgiving. I usually pick up extra Christmas holiday shifts at my hospital when he's in TX visiting his kids so other people can be home with their families.

Or he will be deployed...bleh

Both sides of our family are very important so we will continue to split the days either in half or visit the day before and the day of.

Lots to talk about if you don't agree but try doing a day before and day of situation! Sometimes hosting (as a pain as it can be) can also help because it brings everyone to you instead.

I work in retail so I'm never around for thanksgiving, my FH usually goes away. Which we discussed this year and decided we would host thanksgiving so I could still work, he could still be with his family, and we would still be together. Christmas doesn't really matter for us, since my family is catholic and his is Jewish.

Our plan is to invite both families to our house when we get married. It is so hard going to so many different places. We will invite everyone and whoever shows up, shows up.

Christmas in my family is the most important holiday. My immediate family lives all over the country, so Christmas is generally the only time we are all together. Thanksgiving is the big, important holiday for H's family. We have spent the last two Thanksgivings with his family in San Diego (we're in Seattle). I want to stay home this year, just the two of us since it will be our first Thanksgiving as a married couple. H is having trouble standing up to his mother who is expecting us to come again this year. We have not made our final decision yet.

We stayed home last year for Christmas, and it was lovely and relaxing compared to traveling to my parents' house in NC for Christmas with my family. We wanted to stay home again this year because it's our first Christmas as our own family of two. But since we missed my family's Christmas last year, we have already made plans and purchased plane tickets to spend Christmas with them this year. Juggling family expectations and what we want is hard. Going forward, we are probably going to alternate spending holidays with each respective family (Thanksgiving with his family; Christmas with mine) and staying home. Until we have kids, and then we will travel for holidays much less.

Quite honestly we are avoiding thinking about it. It's been an awful headache for the last five years, It doesn't seem like it will be any easier. I'm genuinely considering a coin toss

We are so lucky to have everyone local to us. We do his mom's family on Christmas Eve, my family Christmas morning, and his dad's family Christmas afternoon. No one we know really celebrates Thanksgiving, so we just kind of go with the flow on that one, and same with Easter.

I have a bigger family with tons of nieces and nephews. I also work a parttime job that sometimes include certain holidays. Its a grocery store so they are only closed christmas day. Since my brother both have blended families, we celebrate whenever they have the kids. FH is an only child so we celebrate with his mom and dad and uncle whichever day we are not with my family. If we dont get to see them on the actual holiday we make an effort to get together within a few days. I dont think this set up will change once we are married. Now, if we move, which is a pretty likely possibility in the next few years, that will be a different story.

We usually split Thanksgiving between the two families--one for dinner and the other dessert. We're about 15 minutes from his parents and 20 minutes from mine, so it works, although I'm not sure what my family is doing this year. Last year was supposed to be the big "last Thanksgiving" that my grandmother hosted in her house, but the house hasn't sold yet, so we'll see. Christmas my family celebrates both Christmas Eve and Christmas Day, and DH's family does "Jewish Christmas"--Chinese food and a movie. His mom refuses to go to a movie after dinner for some reason, so we usually end up stuffed and just nibbling on things while they eat dinner because we're still at my parents during the movie.

For the past couple of years DH & I split up during the holidays to see our respected families. We've decided that going forward we're going to do one year with DH's mom & friends in NY, the next year it'll be my family in CA & then the year after it'll just be us. We felt it was important to us that we have a year of holidays to ourselves so we can really focus on ourselves & our marriage as well as make our own traditions as a family. My family is huge and is pretty disappointed but oh well, they'll live with it!

We are going to take a vacation just us and spend holidays alone. Our moms are flipping their shit but idgaf. Holidays are too drama filled and I'm over it so I'm taking the mature route and sticking my fingers in my ears going "la la la la la" while cruising the fuck away lol.

My family is in NY and my FW family lives here in California right by us. For Thanksgiving, that isn't a big deal in my family. Even when I lived in NY, I would do friend thanksgivings instead of go home cause it just wasn't really an important holiday to my family.

However, Christmas is definitely a bigger deal and I super enjoy going home for that holiday since my mom goes all out decorating, etc. FW's family is into Christmas but not as much as my mom lol.

We basically decided to make things fair, we were going to switch off every Christmas. So every other year, we spend it in San Jose with her family and the other year, we fly to NY to spend it with me. Flying to NY is expensive around the holidays so we didn't want to make it an every year thing. It works really good for us!

And I usually go home to NY a different time of the year on the off-Christmas year. (This year will be our trip to NY for Christmas and I'm so excited since my sister just had a baby so I get to spend time with my nephew!!!)

We actually haven't discussed it too much, yet but we need to. Not only will we be married but I recently started a new job so I can't do too much time off since I'll be taking a full week off in November. We will likely go up to his grandparents after I get off from work Christmas evening and spend the next day or so up there and celebrate Christmas with his family the Tues or Wed before Christmas and then do Thanksgiving/Christmas all at one time with my family before that, and I'll just have to request a day off. As far as Thanksgiving with his family/extended family, I'll likely just have to miss it like I did last year because I doubt they'll do an all in one day celebration like my family intends to do. Not that it bothers me too much. I can only handle his family in small increments. Everyone stares at me like I have a second head, and everyone is hugs too much. Like, no thank you. Keep your hands to yourself.

We go our separate ways for Christmas and will continue to do that as it works for us. Our families are several states apart. We don't celebrate thanksgiving because I hate and detest thanksgiving food (and it is my birthday this year ugh), and we spend that holiday together just us watching football and relaxing