First Holidays as Spouses

It's tough for us due to FH 's birthday being on Christmas Eve so we have been trying to come together with a plan somehow so that we can still see family we just don't know where to start

I think it's a little weird to intentionally spend holidays just the two of you. Isn't it just the two of you every other day? It's kind of the point of holidays- to spend time with extended family. Right now, we try to see both sides on big holidays. My family currently lives about an hour from us/DH's family; however, they are selling their house this spring to move closer to us and we couldn't be happier.

@Sos I guess I just want to it to just be the two of us (just for Christmas) because we see his family almost every weekend and it gets exhausting.

Based on most people's answers I'm a little shocked that I'm in the minority that I want to spend the first Christmas (not all) with just the two of us. I honestly thought that that was common.

We'll be on our honeymoon for our very first married holiday. I'm not sure what we'll do for Christmas.

I fell out with my mother this year, so no need to go that way. Our wedding has set us back a little, so I think we'll spend it at home until we get our coins up to travel again

He isn't very close with his family so we typically spend all holidays with my family. But if he wants to go see his familu instead I would be down for that. We've been together for quite a long time so we've had many holidays together already, nothing is changing now that we're married.

We just moved into our house in May, so we are going to have his family (they live in town) and my parents (from NY) at our place for Thanksgiving. For Christmas, we'll be going to his parents' house and then go to NY for a few days after Christmas. We decided that months ago so that we don't have to stress about that after the stress (and fun) of the wedding.

I agree with some other PP about setting the precedence the 1st yr on how you want holidays to be handled. As much as you need to keep each side in mind, you need to do what is going to work for the you n FH for the yrs to come. Also, if you plan to have a child(ren)...think about how you would handle Christmas Eve/morning.

I have a larger family/youngest of 13, our parents have passed, so we just get together the Saturday following a holiday. This allows everyone to have their own holiday for themselves & with ILs; while we still get our family time without having to compete for time. We have a better turnout this way.

Host both families! I grew up and my parents always hosted. Now, I realize what a blessing it was.

We will spend our first Christmas together in a motel. We will be in the middle of a PCS military move.

We've been together over 3 years so we have got this down pretty good by now! We alternate Thanksgiving and Christmas. So, one year we did Thanksgiving in Texas with my family, and Christmas we stayed home and spent with FH's family. The next year we just flipped the two and spent Thanksgiving at home, and Christmas away. It's worked out pretty well for us so far - We'll have to figure out something else most likely once we have kids in the picture.