First Look?

We’re not doing a first look. I think it will be so magical walking down the aisle to see each other for the first time right before getting married! My ceremony is also at 11:30 am, so it cuts down on how early I have to wake up to be ready, too. The pictures after the ceremony will be our first pictures as husband and wife, rather than having the pictures of our last moments as fiancés. I was upset at first about missing cocktail hour, but then again, I feel my entrance into the ballroom will be more exciting because everyone will be waiting to see us as a married couple for the first time!

I'm not a fan of them at all. I would never tell another bride what to do on her day though. I just hate them. I would never take that moment from my fiancee, where his first glimpse of me is when i'm walking up the aisle to him to become his wife. He hates the first look trend even more than I do

At first, I didn't like the idea at all. I'm fairly traditional, and firmly believed in the idea that the groom should not see the bride before that walk down the aisle.

Then I started reading other people's ideas about it, and it became something to consider. Then I talked to FH about it. I didn't think he would like the idea at all, because he's even more traditional that I am. I never considered that HE would have all kinds of nerves and anxiety beforehand, and so when I mentioned that it was a way for us to have a few minutes of privacy with each other before the ceremony, he jumped on it!! I guess he was really worried that he was going to fall apart at the sight of me, and doing that in front of all our friends and family was really worrying him! So, now he can see me in private, and cry all he wants (in private), and then we can both go into the ceremony feeling much calmer about the whole thing. I don't think it will take anything away from that moment I walk to him, but only enhance it.

So, we're definitely doing the first look.

One additional bonus: we'll be able to get almost all of our photos out of the way before the ceremony, and we can join our cocktail hour and our guests before it ends.

We did first look photos and it was the best decision ever! We got a lot of photos out of the way so we could spend more time mingling at the reception.

Ugh I so desperately do not want to do a first look but with the time we want to do the ceremony and the time the sun sets in October, it doesn't look like we'll have a choice if we want to get good photos outside. We can't move the ceremony up because we're having an open bar and our budget doesn't allow us to pay for more than 4 hours. SO it looks like we'll be doing the first look. I was against it because I genuinely love the photos of the groom seeing the bride for the first time at the alter AND my FH and I are not super emotional or sentimental so I wasn't set on that "private moment".

We’re doing a First Look so we can get comfortable with our photographer, plus we’re not superstitious, FH has seen my dress a thousand times lol, it’s just not a big deal for us.

I wanna do a first look! I love the pictures and am afraid I would be too emotional if we did it in front of everyone walking down the aisle

We did a first look, but that was something I knew I would do before I even started planning my wedding. My husband and I are both very private people, so it just made sense that the first time we saw each other that day, it was just us. If we hadn't done one, I wouldn't have seen him until about 2 hours later, so I would've gone crazy. It helped us get the jitters out, and just have a bit to just ourselves to just talk about how our day had gone so far and what we were looking forward to next. We got most of our pictures out of the way before the ceremony, which was a huge bonus for me. And seeing him before definitely did not make me walking down the aisle to him any less special for us.

We did a first look to help calm down my poor husband. He was excited to do it and I surprised him with a small gift!

We are doing a first look. I think it will not only help with getting a lot of pictures out of the way early (before my face will melt from tears), but hopefully will calm our nerves some, too.

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My fiance too I told him I wanted him to cry when I walked down the aisle (I was joking around this was before we ever got engaged) and ever since then hes been adamant no first look. lol

Thank you everyone!!!

I feel against the first look as i feel it takes away from the true emotion of my walking down the isle. Fh refuses to do first look which works out. The only first look pic I will want to do is one with my dad and step dad.

We are waiting my FH is set on seeing me walk to him down the isle as his first look and i love it

My FH said “heck no!!! I’m not seeing you till you come down the aisle, you crazy!”
our parents are glad too, they want to see the reaction as well!

At first I thought that the first look would take away from the ceremony, but after talking with the photographer it’s in ours and our guests best interest to do it. Also a little bit of history about the groom not seeing the bride before the wedding, totally not as sweet as it seems to be today. The reason it’s considered bad luck is because back in the day many marriages were arranged and the groom LITERALLY didn’t get to see the bride before the wedding. Also the same thing with veils (if her face is covered he doesn’t know if he finds her attractive until it’s said and done with). Once I learned that, the decision was super easy to stick to

I like the idea of first looks but i really wanted to wait for him to see me while walking down the aisle. I also love the pictures of the groom seeing the bride walking down the aisle towards him. so we aren’t doing first looks.

I talked to FH about a first look, but he wants to wait until I'm walking down the aisle to see my dress. Definitely a decision for both of you to make!

Me and FH decided to wait till I walk down the isle. 79 days to go!!!!

We did a first look! I loved it so much. It gave us a chance to be together before the ceremony and laugh and love.

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