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Dedicated June 2018

First Ob/gyn appointment terrified

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Emilie, on April 11, 2018 at 2:49 PM

Hey guys! I don’t really need advice. Just need some positive thoughts or stories!

I’m 23 and FH and I are both virgins and will be so until after we get married. I’ve never even thought about going to the gyno before, but I know I need to get it out of the way. I’ll be scheduling an appointment somewhere soon.

BUT. I’ve never heard a positive or even okay story about going to the gyno. Today, yet another one of my friends told me about her experience. Apparently it was awful and painful and she cried after her pap smear until she fell asleep after she got back home.

Anyone have positive gyno stories to share? I’m panicking hardcore, and I’m way too emotionally fragile right now for this added stress! Haha. I always felt humiliated and dirty even as a kid when I left the doctor, so the anxiety of the awkwardness for me (I know the doctor sees this all the time) is killing me, and then the idea of the pain is really very very excruciatingly terrifying.

Help!

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VIP May 2018
Red Queen · on April 11, 2018 at 11:58 PM
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It's really not a big deal. You should have been going since you were 18 anyway, regardless of sexual activity.
It's a little uncomfortable, and then it's over. It's a medical necessity. Don't worry about it too much.

Besides LOL if you're shy, just wait till you get pregnant!
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Devoted June 2018
Whitney · on April 12, 2018 at 12:15 AM
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I had my first pap at 16. I was not sexually active yet. Sure, it’s a little awkward. It’s not particularly painful though. You’ll be fine.
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January 2018
Private User · on April 12, 2018 at 2:12 AM
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Just a PSA: you should definitely see a gynecologist when you first started your period and maybe every couple years after and annually once you are sexually active. Oye.
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Super May 2018
P.F. · on April 12, 2018 at 12:21 PM
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I've only had good experiences. It's important to find a doctor you can have a conversation with during the exam to take your mind off being half naked. I liked all the doctors I had. I've never felt pain in an exam
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Savvy July 2018
Katie · on April 27, 2018 at 9:25 AM
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When I went for my first pap, my doc was awesome. She talked me though exactly what was going to happen, and she was very accommodating. I wouldn't say it was my favorite thing in the world to do, but it was definitely not unpleasant! I had no pain at all, no spotting, no effects from it whatsoever actually. It will help if you can keep calm and not tense your muscles (which I know sounds impossible, but you can do it!) Tell you doc that you're a virgin and she may even be able to be a little more gentle.
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