First panic attack of wedding planning, GO

Definitely wording the invites. FHs parents are both remarried blah blah blah, mine are not blah blah. Did not wanna leave anyone out blah blah blah. Lol ya get it.

I'm only saying it like this because I don't care anymore, invites have been sent for a while buuuuuut before then it was the end of the world damn near.

My RSVPS are slowly, but steadily coming in. I know who is for sure going, but like not even half of my wedding party has sent theirs yet. My deadline is the 12th and I still need like 60! I'm starting to freak out! Do people not know the importance of RSVPing?

@felicia- no they do not know the importance or they don't care. Your wedding party is still a guest and if your venue needs a total head count than they need to give u an RSVP. Our venue told us not to forget to include me and FH lol it's that important that they also RSVP as well. Some of FHs family still has not rsvpd and it's 2 weeks until our wedding lol. Geez.

I've had panic attacks in the past but thankfully none wedding-related (yet).

What brought me close was everyone realizing its 3 months out and they all started calling me panicking. When someone asks me how planning is going now I go into long-winded rants and they all say "sorry for asking". Well- you asked! I hate the "polite conversation" questions that no one means like "hi, how are you?" If you don't care it's so insincere.

The only thing that has really got me going is how many of our invites were returned/never made it. I sent out 70...have gotten 4 back for being "wrong address/or no such address" (I checked, and double checked the guest list a ton of times) and so far have had 6 people tell me they never got theirs. I'm starting to freak out since that's now 6 invitations I have to make, again. Ugh

Oh everything!!! First visit to our venue and before my first bridal showers were the two big panic attacks. No idea why!!

Not full-on panic attacks, but I have definitely had some sleepless nights and/or nightmares over my mom with some family stuff. that's probably the most stressful thing, sick of the family drama.

Oh wow, yes wedding planning brought on my first full on panic attack - I ended up crying curled up on the bathroom floor until FH managed to snap me out of it.

This was in late May when we were scheduling meetings with all of our vendors for the one week that we were going to be in Virginia. For some reason it had all ended up getting tossed on my shoulders even though other people volunteered to help. AKA they said oh don't worry I will call and schedule that today or tomorrow so that I wouldn't have to and then when I would ask go... Oh I'm sorry, did you actually want me to do that? YES! You said you would!!!?!?!?

Anyways long story short, no one was responding to emails, I couldn't really call because of my work schedule/lack of cell phone service at work, and no one would help me set up the appointments. My mom called that night and asked me about when all the appointments were and I told her they weren't all set up yet and she just went off on me asking me why this wasn't done

And that I was being disrespectful to her time and the vendors time and I just told her I couldn't deal with this right now, hung up the phone and went to hide in the bathroom.

BTW - she was one of the ppl who had promised to help set up floral appointments and never actually did it.

Sorry that ended up being sort of a vent, but yes, I have had a full on panic attack due to wedding planning. Who said destination weddings were stress free!?

Cece - I've nailed down the "Ma, I love you, but back off!" I'm totally lying. I'm terrified of her. I'm sorry she was being mean to you.

No panic attack, but my meltdown happened when we went to the ceremony site a year to the date and at the exact time it was supposed to happen. The suns were RIGHT in the guests' eyes. I freaked out. So we pushed it back 2 hours to 4 PM. What's making me nervous is that the hotel has a 3 PM check in time and shuttles are planning to leave at 3:30.

I woke up twice one night. Once I was so far gone I couldn't get DH attention. I couldn't move or talk louder than whisper. It really freaked me out

@OTW - Lol - Mom's are terrifying. I'm usually pretty good at telling her to back off but she caught me off guard that night - my defenses were down!

I hope the sun and shuttles aren't a problem. I'm dealing with that as well. The sun will be right in the guests eyes unless I move my ceremony... ugh. Might have to just do it.

I haven't yet, maybe when it gets closer I will probably panic. I have had anxiety attacks in the past.

I did freak out a week and a half ago when FH got papers from his ex's lawyer asking for Full legal custody of their son. Like we needed MORE stress, or more financial stress three months before the wedding. Thankfully, his father temporarily paid the lawyer fee for him, and we'll just have to pay him back. Thank God for parents, or that would have been what's left of our wedding fund PLUS our honeymoon fund. And, the idea of his son maybe not being their for our wedding is devastating, and hopefully it will get resolved before then.

DIY projects are really the only things that throw me into a panic attack...OH, and the crisis I had with the flowers. About 3 weeks ago there was an entire week where I didn't sleep, I just stressed and had a million things going through my head. I make lists though. Then I re-do the lists.....and then I feel better. LOL. Just have to have faith it will all come together and breathe!

I have had no panic attacks. Not one. Sad moments sure.

But I would say 7 days to go...I am pretty impressive

This past week. We wanted to schedule an appt with the venue to do a walk-through and figure out some set-up stuff. We couldn't get in touch with anyone for a whole week and I was freaking out.

Turns out the contact was on vacation and since she's old and doesn't use email we had no way of learning that. Unfortunately, it's a community club house so the board isn't great a being wedding contacts. But the scenery makes up for it...

I’ve had two breakdowns I can think of.

When my step-mom told me she had invited her friends to the small and intimate wedding FH and I are planning.

Then when my grandma and step-mom declined my shower invite.

I definitely feel let down, but I’m glad that this Saturday for my shower I’ll have good people there supporting me!

I have one about everyday since the planning process has begun! I am planning my wedding in 3 months with 2 month left to go! My biggest stress so far has been my invitation! Absolutely NOTHING has gone right with them. Right now my friends and family are getting empty envelopes because the invites are falling out of the envelope!!!! And then there is spending all the money! Oh my gaw!! I am super frugal and do not like to spend money on things that I do not need (food, water, shelter, clothes). Every time I make a wedding purchase it makes my stomach turn into knots! "This money could go to something more worth while" I think to myself as I click on the "confirm purchase" button! Yes, my wedding will be amazing, but I am so ready for it to just be over so that I can have my normal panick free life back!

Let me preface this by saying that I am very much in control all the time. I have a toddler, a full time management job and extreme organizational skills. I can handle watching someone die, saving a life, broken main water lines, employees getting injured, a million complaints and people yelling at me all in the same day. I have been planning my wedding for a year and a half. Everything is on par and beyond. I am comfortable with being with my fiance for the rest of my life. All that said, my wedding is just under a month away and I thought I was dying on Thursday night and it's happening again now. My shower was Saturday and work is crazy crazy right now. I had a panic attack. I have NEVER experienced this before in my life. I believe it was a mild one from what I understand. I do not have problems with anxiety. Never have trouble falling asleep (still don't) but wedding stuff mixed with work and toddler have put me over the edge. I am mostly posting this to let you all know that it can happen to ANYONE and I never thought I would have this and I may never experience it again but it happened.